Memphis World
Memphis World Publishing Co.
1966-04-09
J. A. Beauchamp

28 Drug Abuse
Investigators
Ready To Work
Twenty-eight drug abuse investigators 
completed special training
Saturday at the University or California 
at Berkeley. From the campus 
they will move immediately to
field assignments in the Food and
Drug Administration's new Bureau
of Drug Abuse Control BDAC.
The class is the first to finish
the eight-week course conducted
for the FDA by the University's
school of Criminology. Two more
classes of 60 investigators each are
to complete the course in June
and August.
The graduates will work in
BDAC's Division of Investigations,
which will attack the illegal traffic
in prescription and counterfeit
drugs and the stimulant, depressant, 
and hallucinogenic drugs.
BDAC was organized under the
provision of the 1965 Drug Abuse
Control Amendments to the Federal
Food. Drug and Cosmet'c Act. The
Amendments became effective February 
1, 1966.
John H. Finlator, who was sworn
in as director of the Bureau March
7. said BDAC field offices will
be opened Monday in New York.
Atlanta, Chicago Kansas City, Mo.,
and Los Angeles.
Investigators completing the
course at Berkeley Saturday will
be assigned to these field offices
Mr. Finlater said they will be engaged 
in determining the sources
and suppliers of drugs distributed
in violation, of the new law.
The 1935 Amendments now apply 
to amphetamines, barbiturate
and 16 other drug that have a
potential for abuse because of their
stimulant, depressant or hallucinatory 
effects. Manufacturer, distributors, 
pharmacists and others who
regularly dispense drugs (including
some physicians) are required to
maintain production, receipt, andor 
distribution records on the covered 
drugs.
All the investigators selected for
assignment to BDAC were already
qualified and experienced in investigative 
work. Most of the members 
of the first class, came from
other, assignments within the FDA,
but the group also includes former 
agents in narcotics and internal 
Revenue work.
Course subjects at the University 
of California range from physical 
education and weapons tarining 
to the interpretation of production 
records, the culture and
social - psychology of drug use and
abuse, and the pharmacology of
drugs.

House Committee
To Challenge
Bond's Sealing
The House Rules Committee met
briefly Monday to consider a challenge 
to the seating of Negro. Rep.
elect Julian Bond, then re-scheduled 
a full hearing for May 23
over the objections of Band's lawyer. 

House speaker George T. Smith.
said both sides needed the extra
time to prepare a case and to prepare 
a case and to subpoena-witnesses. 
He also said that the issue
could be decided by the full House
if a special session is called in the
meantime.
Bond's attorney, Howard Moore,
was assured that the Bond case
would be the first order of business
in a special session. Moore had
said that a delay until May 23
would deny representation to the
24.000 citizens of Bond's district.
"We look on this as an extremely 
important matter", Moore said.
There are 24,000 people without representation 
in Mr. Bend's district.
This thing needs to be cleared up
right away."
Tavern sign; "Don't Be a Drop
Out! Drink Up"
Winter wind gnawing at bareboned 
branches... day carbonated
with snowflages... winter slidewalks. 

Finance company ad: "For the
mart who has everything — but
hasn't paid for it."

VIET CONG CHAINED TO WEAPONS —
Capt. Clay N. Mobley
of Charlotte, N.C., demonstrates in War Zone D in South
Viet Nam one of the iron collars found on dead Viet Cong.
A chain from the collars held them at their machineguns.

ELEANOR

Eventually, in the course of things
a girl begins to narrow her interest
in young men to one young man
A fairly long courtship and a brief
engagement, seem to be a safe formula. 
The courtship period is casual
and informal without pledges on
either side. It gives each a chance
to know the other better - and yet
make a graceful, exit if that seems
expedient.
Wherever possible, a girl should
receive an attentive man in her
own home and not see him exclusively 
in the artificial atmosphere
of the theater restaurants, and
other places of amusement. He
needs, if possible, to evaluate her
with her family, or at least in her
own home, and to see her with her
friends, to help him decide whether
or not life with her would be comfortable 
as well as romantically
satisfying.
If her relationships with her
family are good and happy. No
girl need be ashamed to bring a
suitor into the most modest home.
even if he be from a more prosperous 
background and interests.
It is impossible for a man and
woman to know whether they are
really suited to one another if they
spend all their courtship time, in
the exclusive company of each other
Each should give the other an opportunity 
to expose to searching
consideration his best and worst
sides.
They should see each other in
the give and take of family he. Or
at least among close friends with
kindred interests. Otherwise a resulting 
marriage is in for rude
shocks and accusations of, "If I'd
known 'such and such I'd never
have married you!"
If a girl, is taken to meet a man's
family before he has said anything
definite about marriage; she should
be careful to be friendly and interested, 
but not too interested.
Often a man is wary of introducing
a girl into his own circle before he
has very nearly made up his own
mind- about her, because either she
or his family and friends might
assume a seriousness about the relationship 
that may never develop.
If he is wise, lie might warn his
family in advance not to jump to
conclusions. And the girl must pretend 
not to hear any little interfamily 
raillery concerning John and
herself.
Nothing frightens a man more
than presumption on the part of a
woman. If ever a woman needs to
be obtuse with the male it is when
he is courting her but has not yet
declared himself.
A man's gifts to any girl other

than a relative, before the engagement 
is announced, should be relatively 
impersonal. In other words,
they should hot admit or imply
intimacy or be so costly or conspicuous 
as to cause talk.
He might give her a scarf, gloves
or handkerchiefs, but not not a
dress, hat, underthings, hosiery, or
fur of any kind. He might give her
a book, but not an expensive set
of books.
If she's a bachelor Girl with her
own quarters he might give her a
cocktail shaker or a toaster, if she
needed or wanted one, and he knew
her well enough, but never a bed
jacket or anything so intimate.
He would, of course, pay for her
tax; but never embarrass her by trying 
to pay the grocery or other
household bill at the door of a shop
where they happen to he together.
To do anything that puts a girl in
an untenable position is to be less
then a gentleman.
THE EXCEPTION IS LIQUOR
While a man visiting a woman at
her home may not pay for groceries
or other household supplies should
they happen to be delivered, he
does pay for anything, such as
liquor or food, he has ordered sent
in, just as he would if he were the
host in a restaurant.
If with his hostess" permission
he has ordered a special dinner sent
in from a caterer, instead of taking
her out, he takes care of the check.
If he feels he has accepted her
hospitality too often and wishes to
replenish her bar supplies, he may
do so - within reasonable limits.
And, always with her permission.
REFUSING A GIFT. A too-intimate 
or too-expensive gift is some
times offered by a man who just
doesn't know any better. If a girl
receives such a gift she should be
tactful. She should not show it nor
try to explain it. She should, instead 
return it to the donor with
some such remark as this, "I know
you, didn't realize it, but I could 's
possibly accept such a gift from you,
much as I appreciate your kindness 
in wanting to make me a gift."
If she does this in a kindly way he
won't be too embarrassed, and she
won't be compromised.
I understand that when an engagement 
is announced, the boy's
parents call as soon as possible upon 
the parents of the girl. But my
case is very difficult. My. Daughter
who is announcing her engagement,
lives with me, and I am divorced
from her father, who lives in the
same town. We are fairly friendly.
Would it be expected of us to receive 
this call together at my home?
Should they ignore my daughter's
father or call on him separately?
Receive their call without your
former husband. They may call on
your daughter's father separately
if he is still very much part of all
of your lives. If they do call, they
call jointly, or the boy's father may
call alone on our former husband
and perhaps, during the call, arrange 
for him to come and meet
the new family, Even if your relations 
with your former husband are
friendly, you should not make the
traditional return visit a joint one.
How does a father announce the
engagement of his daughter to a
gathering of relatives and friends
at home? is a toast in order?
Yes. After all have assembled and
the party is well under way, the
father, first catching, every ones
attention, proposes a toast. Sometimes 
if champagne has not been
served up to this point it is brought
out and ceremoniously poured.
When everyone has been served, the
father raises his glass and says
something like this; "To my daugh
ter 
Margaret and my future sonin-law 
John. Let us drink to their
happiness."
My daughter, who is in her first
year of college has just become
engaged to a boy in the service. He
has three years more to go, the
first half to be spent overseas. They
plan to marry in three or four
years. We like the boy very much
but, in view of the length of time
involved, I feel that no announcement 
of the engagement should be
made now. Am I right?
A great deal can happen in three
or four years, especially with young
people separated. What they both
think they want now may not be
at all what they-wanted at the end
of that time. Therefore, do not announce 
the engagement, and try
to persuade them to leave each
other free until it is practical to
speak of a wedding date.
All points of eitquette taken from
Amv Vanderbuilt's Book of Etiquette. 

The big black cat that graces San
Francisco's Grace Cathedral has
been named by the staff "Magnificat." 


COURTSHIP AND
ENGAGEMENTS

Eventually, in the course of things
a girl begins to narrow her interest
in young men to one young man
A fairly long courtship and a brief
engagement, seem to be a safe formula. 
The courtship period is casual
and informal without pledges on
either side. It gives each a chance
to know the other better - and yet
make a graceful, exit if that seems
expedient.
Wherever possible, a girl should
receive an attentive man in her
own home and not see him exclusively 
in the artificial atmosphere
of the theater restaurants, and
other places of amusement. He
needs, if possible, to evaluate her
with her family, or at least in her
own home, and to see her with her
friends, to help him decide whether
or not life with her would be comfortable 
as well as romantically
satisfying.
If her relationships with her
family are good and happy. No
girl need be ashamed to bring a
suitor into the most modest home.
even if he be from a more prosperous 
background and interests.
It is impossible for a man and
woman to know whether they are
really suited to one another if they
spend all their courtship time, in
the exclusive company of each other
Each should give the other an opportunity 
to expose to searching
consideration his best and worst
sides.
They should see each other in
the give and take of family he. Or
at least among close friends with
kindred interests. Otherwise a resulting 
marriage is in for rude
shocks and accusations of, "If I'd
known 'such and such I'd never
have married you!"
If a girl, is taken to meet a man's
family before he has said anything
definite about marriage; she should
be careful to be friendly and interested, 
but not too interested.
Often a man is wary of introducing
a girl into his own circle before he
has very nearly made up his own
mind- about her, because either she
or his family and friends might
assume a seriousness about the relationship 
that may never develop.
If he is wise, lie might warn his
family in advance not to jump to
conclusions. And the girl must pretend 
not to hear any little interfamily 
raillery concerning John and
herself.
Nothing frightens a man more
than presumption on the part of a
woman. If ever a woman needs to
be obtuse with the male it is when
he is courting her but has not yet
declared himself.
A man's gifts to any girl other

than a relative, before the engagement 
is announced, should be relatively 
impersonal. In other words,
they should hot admit or imply
intimacy or be so costly or conspicuous 
as to cause talk.
He might give her a scarf, gloves
or handkerchiefs, but not not a
dress, hat, underthings, hosiery, or
fur of any kind. He might give her
a book, but not an expensive set
of books.
If she's a bachelor Girl with her
own quarters he might give her a
cocktail shaker or a toaster, if she
needed or wanted one, and he knew
her well enough, but never a bed
jacket or anything so intimate.
He would, of course, pay for her
tax; but never embarrass her by trying 
to pay the grocery or other
household bill at the door of a shop
where they happen to he together.
To do anything that puts a girl in
an untenable position is to be less
then a gentleman.
THE EXCEPTION IS LIQUOR
While a man visiting a woman at
her home may not pay for groceries
or other household supplies should
they happen to be delivered, he
does pay for anything, such as
liquor or food, he has ordered sent
in, just as he would if he were the
host in a restaurant.
If with his hostess" permission
he has ordered a special dinner sent
in from a caterer, instead of taking
her out, he takes care of the check.
If he feels he has accepted her
hospitality too often and wishes to
replenish her bar supplies, he may
do so - within reasonable limits.
And, always with her permission.
REFUSING A GIFT. A too-intimate 
or too-expensive gift is some
times offered by a man who just
doesn't know any better. If a girl
receives such a gift she should be
tactful. She should not show it nor
try to explain it. She should, instead 
return it to the donor with
some such remark as this, "I know
you, didn't realize it, but I could 's
possibly accept such a gift from you,
much as I appreciate your kindness 
in wanting to make me a gift."
If she does this in a kindly way he
won't be too embarrassed, and she
won't be compromised.
I understand that when an engagement 
is announced, the boy's
parents call as soon as possible upon 
the parents of the girl. But my
case is very difficult. My. Daughter
who is announcing her engagement,
lives with me, and I am divorced
from her father, who lives in the
same town. We are fairly friendly.
Would it be expected of us to receive 
this call together at my home?
Should they ignore my daughter's
father or call on him separately?
Receive their call without your
former husband. They may call on
your daughter's father separately
if he is still very much part of all
of your lives. If they do call, they
call jointly, or the boy's father may
call alone on our former husband
and perhaps, during the call, arrange 
for him to come and meet
the new family, Even if your relations 
with your former husband are
friendly, you should not make the
traditional return visit a joint one.
How does a father announce the
engagement of his daughter to a
gathering of relatives and friends
at home? is a toast in order?
Yes. After all have assembled and
the party is well under way, the
father, first catching, every ones
attention, proposes a toast. Sometimes 
if champagne has not been
served up to this point it is brought
out and ceremoniously poured.
When everyone has been served, the
father raises his glass and says
something like this; "To my daugh
ter 
Margaret and my future sonin-law 
John. Let us drink to their
happiness."
My daughter, who is in her first
year of college has just become
engaged to a boy in the service. He
has three years more to go, the
first half to be spent overseas. They
plan to marry in three or four
years. We like the boy very much
but, in view of the length of time
involved, I feel that no announcement 
of the engagement should be
made now. Am I right?
A great deal can happen in three
or four years, especially with young
people separated. What they both
think they want now may not be
at all what they-wanted at the end
of that time. Therefore, do not announce 
the engagement, and try
to persuade them to leave each
other free until it is practical to
speak of a wedding date.
All points of eitquette taken from
Amv Vanderbuilt's Book of Etiquette. 

The big black cat that graces San
Francisco's Grace Cathedral has
been named by the staff "Magnificat." 


MEETING A MAN'S
FAMILY AND FRIENDS

Eventually, in the course of things
a girl begins to narrow her interest
in young men to one young man
A fairly long courtship and a brief
engagement, seem to be a safe formula. 
The courtship period is casual
and informal without pledges on
either side. It gives each a chance
to know the other better - and yet
make a graceful, exit if that seems
expedient.
Wherever possible, a girl should
receive an attentive man in her
own home and not see him exclusively 
in the artificial atmosphere
of the theater restaurants, and
other places of amusement. He
needs, if possible, to evaluate her
with her family, or at least in her
own home, and to see her with her
friends, to help him decide whether
or not life with her would be comfortable 
as well as romantically
satisfying.
If her relationships with her
family are good and happy. No
girl need be ashamed to bring a
suitor into the most modest home.
even if he be from a more prosperous 
background and interests.
It is impossible for a man and
woman to know whether they are
really suited to one another if they
spend all their courtship time, in
the exclusive company of each other
Each should give the other an opportunity 
to expose to searching
consideration his best and worst
sides.
They should see each other in
the give and take of family he. Or
at least among close friends with
kindred interests. Otherwise a resulting 
marriage is in for rude
shocks and accusations of, "If I'd
known 'such and such I'd never
have married you!"
If a girl, is taken to meet a man's
family before he has said anything
definite about marriage; she should
be careful to be friendly and interested, 
but not too interested.
Often a man is wary of introducing
a girl into his own circle before he
has very nearly made up his own
mind- about her, because either she
or his family and friends might
assume a seriousness about the relationship 
that may never develop.
If he is wise, lie might warn his
family in advance not to jump to
conclusions. And the girl must pretend 
not to hear any little interfamily 
raillery concerning John and
herself.
Nothing frightens a man more
than presumption on the part of a
woman. If ever a woman needs to
be obtuse with the male it is when
he is courting her but has not yet
declared himself.
A man's gifts to any girl other

than a relative, before the engagement 
is announced, should be relatively 
impersonal. In other words,
they should hot admit or imply
intimacy or be so costly or conspicuous 
as to cause talk.
He might give her a scarf, gloves
or handkerchiefs, but not not a
dress, hat, underthings, hosiery, or
fur of any kind. He might give her
a book, but not an expensive set
of books.
If she's a bachelor Girl with her
own quarters he might give her a
cocktail shaker or a toaster, if she
needed or wanted one, and he knew
her well enough, but never a bed
jacket or anything so intimate.
He would, of course, pay for her
tax; but never embarrass her by trying 
to pay the grocery or other
household bill at the door of a shop
where they happen to he together.
To do anything that puts a girl in
an untenable position is to be less
then a gentleman.
THE EXCEPTION IS LIQUOR
While a man visiting a woman at
her home may not pay for groceries
or other household supplies should
they happen to be delivered, he
does pay for anything, such as
liquor or food, he has ordered sent
in, just as he would if he were the
host in a restaurant.
If with his hostess" permission
he has ordered a special dinner sent
in from a caterer, instead of taking
her out, he takes care of the check.
If he feels he has accepted her
hospitality too often and wishes to
replenish her bar supplies, he may
do so - within reasonable limits.
And, always with her permission.
REFUSING A GIFT. A too-intimate 
or too-expensive gift is some
times offered by a man who just
doesn't know any better. If a girl
receives such a gift she should be
tactful. She should not show it nor
try to explain it. She should, instead 
return it to the donor with
some such remark as this, "I know
you, didn't realize it, but I could 's
possibly accept such a gift from you,
much as I appreciate your kindness 
in wanting to make me a gift."
If she does this in a kindly way he
won't be too embarrassed, and she
won't be compromised.
I understand that when an engagement 
is announced, the boy's
parents call as soon as possible upon 
the parents of the girl. But my
case is very difficult. My. Daughter
who is announcing her engagement,
lives with me, and I am divorced
from her father, who lives in the
same town. We are fairly friendly.
Would it be expected of us to receive 
this call together at my home?
Should they ignore my daughter's
father or call on him separately?
Receive their call without your
former husband. They may call on
your daughter's father separately
if he is still very much part of all
of your lives. If they do call, they
call jointly, or the boy's father may
call alone on our former husband
and perhaps, during the call, arrange 
for him to come and meet
the new family, Even if your relations 
with your former husband are
friendly, you should not make the
traditional return visit a joint one.
How does a father announce the
engagement of his daughter to a
gathering of relatives and friends
at home? is a toast in order?
Yes. After all have assembled and
the party is well under way, the
father, first catching, every ones
attention, proposes a toast. Sometimes 
if champagne has not been
served up to this point it is brought
out and ceremoniously poured.
When everyone has been served, the
father raises his glass and says
something like this; "To my daugh
ter 
Margaret and my future sonin-law 
John. Let us drink to their
happiness."
My daughter, who is in her first
year of college has just become
engaged to a boy in the service. He
has three years more to go, the
first half to be spent overseas. They
plan to marry in three or four
years. We like the boy very much
but, in view of the length of time
involved, I feel that no announcement 
of the engagement should be
made now. Am I right?
A great deal can happen in three
or four years, especially with young
people separated. What they both
think they want now may not be
at all what they-wanted at the end
of that time. Therefore, do not announce 
the engagement, and try
to persuade them to leave each
other free until it is practical to
speak of a wedding date.
All points of eitquette taken from
Amv Vanderbuilt's Book of Etiquette. 

The big black cat that graces San
Francisco's Grace Cathedral has
been named by the staff "Magnificat." 


GIFTS BEFORE THE
ENGAGEMENT

Eventually, in the course of things
a girl begins to narrow her interest
in young men to one young man
A fairly long courtship and a brief
engagement, seem to be a safe formula. 
The courtship period is casual
and informal without pledges on
either side. It gives each a chance
to know the other better - and yet
make a graceful, exit if that seems
expedient.
Wherever possible, a girl should
receive an attentive man in her
own home and not see him exclusively 
in the artificial atmosphere
of the theater restaurants, and
other places of amusement. He
needs, if possible, to evaluate her
with her family, or at least in her
own home, and to see her with her
friends, to help him decide whether
or not life with her would be comfortable 
as well as romantically
satisfying.
If her relationships with her
family are good and happy. No
girl need be ashamed to bring a
suitor into the most modest home.
even if he be from a more prosperous 
background and interests.
It is impossible for a man and
woman to know whether they are
really suited to one another if they
spend all their courtship time, in
the exclusive company of each other
Each should give the other an opportunity 
to expose to searching
consideration his best and worst
sides.
They should see each other in
the give and take of family he. Or
at least among close friends with
kindred interests. Otherwise a resulting 
marriage is in for rude
shocks and accusations of, "If I'd
known 'such and such I'd never
have married you!"
If a girl, is taken to meet a man's
family before he has said anything
definite about marriage; she should
be careful to be friendly and interested, 
but not too interested.
Often a man is wary of introducing
a girl into his own circle before he
has very nearly made up his own
mind- about her, because either she
or his family and friends might
assume a seriousness about the relationship 
that may never develop.
If he is wise, lie might warn his
family in advance not to jump to
conclusions. And the girl must pretend 
not to hear any little interfamily 
raillery concerning John and
herself.
Nothing frightens a man more
than presumption on the part of a
woman. If ever a woman needs to
be obtuse with the male it is when
he is courting her but has not yet
declared himself.
A man's gifts to any girl other

than a relative, before the engagement 
is announced, should be relatively 
impersonal. In other words,
they should hot admit or imply
intimacy or be so costly or conspicuous 
as to cause talk.
He might give her a scarf, gloves
or handkerchiefs, but not not a
dress, hat, underthings, hosiery, or
fur of any kind. He might give her
a book, but not an expensive set
of books.
If she's a bachelor Girl with her
own quarters he might give her a
cocktail shaker or a toaster, if she
needed or wanted one, and he knew
her well enough, but never a bed
jacket or anything so intimate.
He would, of course, pay for her
tax; but never embarrass her by trying 
to pay the grocery or other
household bill at the door of a shop
where they happen to he together.
To do anything that puts a girl in
an untenable position is to be less
then a gentleman.
THE EXCEPTION IS LIQUOR
While a man visiting a woman at
her home may not pay for groceries
or other household supplies should
they happen to be delivered, he
does pay for anything, such as
liquor or food, he has ordered sent
in, just as he would if he were the
host in a restaurant.
If with his hostess" permission
he has ordered a special dinner sent
in from a caterer, instead of taking
her out, he takes care of the check.
If he feels he has accepted her
hospitality too often and wishes to
replenish her bar supplies, he may
do so - within reasonable limits.
And, always with her permission.
REFUSING A GIFT. A too-intimate 
or too-expensive gift is some
times offered by a man who just
doesn't know any better. If a girl
receives such a gift she should be
tactful. She should not show it nor
try to explain it. She should, instead 
return it to the donor with
some such remark as this, "I know
you, didn't realize it, but I could 's
possibly accept such a gift from you,
much as I appreciate your kindness 
in wanting to make me a gift."
If she does this in a kindly way he
won't be too embarrassed, and she
won't be compromised.
I understand that when an engagement 
is announced, the boy's
parents call as soon as possible upon 
the parents of the girl. But my
case is very difficult. My. Daughter
who is announcing her engagement,
lives with me, and I am divorced
from her father, who lives in the
same town. We are fairly friendly.
Would it be expected of us to receive 
this call together at my home?
Should they ignore my daughter's
father or call on him separately?
Receive their call without your
former husband. They may call on
your daughter's father separately
if he is still very much part of all
of your lives. If they do call, they
call jointly, or the boy's father may
call alone on our former husband
and perhaps, during the call, arrange 
for him to come and meet
the new family, Even if your relations 
with your former husband are
friendly, you should not make the
traditional return visit a joint one.
How does a father announce the
engagement of his daughter to a
gathering of relatives and friends
at home? is a toast in order?
Yes. After all have assembled and
the party is well under way, the
father, first catching, every ones
attention, proposes a toast. Sometimes 
if champagne has not been
served up to this point it is brought
out and ceremoniously poured.
When everyone has been served, the
father raises his glass and says
something like this; "To my daugh
ter 
Margaret and my future sonin-law 
John. Let us drink to their
happiness."
My daughter, who is in her first
year of college has just become
engaged to a boy in the service. He
has three years more to go, the
first half to be spent overseas. They
plan to marry in three or four
years. We like the boy very much
but, in view of the length of time
involved, I feel that no announcement 
of the engagement should be
made now. Am I right?
A great deal can happen in three
or four years, especially with young
people separated. What they both
think they want now may not be
at all what they-wanted at the end
of that time. Therefore, do not announce 
the engagement, and try
to persuade them to leave each
other free until it is practical to
speak of a wedding date.
All points of eitquette taken from
Amv Vanderbuilt's Book of Etiquette. 

The big black cat that graces San
Francisco's Grace Cathedral has
been named by the staff "Magnificat." 


CONCERNING ENGAGEMENTS
AND WEDDINGS

Eventually, in the course of things
a girl begins to narrow her interest
in young men to one young man
A fairly long courtship and a brief
engagement, seem to be a safe formula. 
The courtship period is casual
and informal without pledges on
either side. It gives each a chance
to know the other better - and yet
make a graceful, exit if that seems
expedient.
Wherever possible, a girl should
receive an attentive man in her
own home and not see him exclusively 
in the artificial atmosphere
of the theater restaurants, and
other places of amusement. He
needs, if possible, to evaluate her
with her family, or at least in her
own home, and to see her with her
friends, to help him decide whether
or not life with her would be comfortable 
as well as romantically
satisfying.
If her relationships with her
family are good and happy. No
girl need be ashamed to bring a
suitor into the most modest home.
even if he be from a more prosperous 
background and interests.
It is impossible for a man and
woman to know whether they are
really suited to one another if they
spend all their courtship time, in
the exclusive company of each other
Each should give the other an opportunity 
to expose to searching
consideration his best and worst
sides.
They should see each other in
the give and take of family he. Or
at least among close friends with
kindred interests. Otherwise a resulting 
marriage is in for rude
shocks and accusations of, "If I'd
known 'such and such I'd never
have married you!"
If a girl, is taken to meet a man's
family before he has said anything
definite about marriage; she should
be careful to be friendly and interested, 
but not too interested.
Often a man is wary of introducing
a girl into his own circle before he
has very nearly made up his own
mind- about her, because either she
or his family and friends might
assume a seriousness about the relationship 
that may never develop.
If he is wise, lie might warn his
family in advance not to jump to
conclusions. And the girl must pretend 
not to hear any little interfamily 
raillery concerning John and
herself.
Nothing frightens a man more
than presumption on the part of a
woman. If ever a woman needs to
be obtuse with the male it is when
he is courting her but has not yet
declared himself.
A man's gifts to any girl other

than a relative, before the engagement 
is announced, should be relatively 
impersonal. In other words,
they should hot admit or imply
intimacy or be so costly or conspicuous 
as to cause talk.
He might give her a scarf, gloves
or handkerchiefs, but not not a
dress, hat, underthings, hosiery, or
fur of any kind. He might give her
a book, but not an expensive set
of books.
If she's a bachelor Girl with her
own quarters he might give her a
cocktail shaker or a toaster, if she
needed or wanted one, and he knew
her well enough, but never a bed
jacket or anything so intimate.
He would, of course, pay for her
tax; but never embarrass her by trying 
to pay the grocery or other
household bill at the door of a shop
where they happen to he together.
To do anything that puts a girl in
an untenable position is to be less
then a gentleman.
THE EXCEPTION IS LIQUOR
While a man visiting a woman at
her home may not pay for groceries
or other household supplies should
they happen to be delivered, he
does pay for anything, such as
liquor or food, he has ordered sent
in, just as he would if he were the
host in a restaurant.
If with his hostess" permission
he has ordered a special dinner sent
in from a caterer, instead of taking
her out, he takes care of the check.
If he feels he has accepted her
hospitality too often and wishes to
replenish her bar supplies, he may
do so - within reasonable limits.
And, always with her permission.
REFUSING A GIFT. A too-intimate 
or too-expensive gift is some
times offered by a man who just
doesn't know any better. If a girl
receives such a gift she should be
tactful. She should not show it nor
try to explain it. She should, instead 
return it to the donor with
some such remark as this, "I know
you, didn't realize it, but I could 's
possibly accept such a gift from you,
much as I appreciate your kindness 
in wanting to make me a gift."
If she does this in a kindly way he
won't be too embarrassed, and she
won't be compromised.
I understand that when an engagement 
is announced, the boy's
parents call as soon as possible upon 
the parents of the girl. But my
case is very difficult. My. Daughter
who is announcing her engagement,
lives with me, and I am divorced
from her father, who lives in the
same town. We are fairly friendly.
Would it be expected of us to receive 
this call together at my home?
Should they ignore my daughter's
father or call on him separately?
Receive their call without your
former husband. They may call on
your daughter's father separately
if he is still very much part of all
of your lives. If they do call, they
call jointly, or the boy's father may
call alone on our former husband
and perhaps, during the call, arrange 
for him to come and meet
the new family, Even if your relations 
with your former husband are
friendly, you should not make the
traditional return visit a joint one.
How does a father announce the
engagement of his daughter to a
gathering of relatives and friends
at home? is a toast in order?
Yes. After all have assembled and
the party is well under way, the
father, first catching, every ones
attention, proposes a toast. Sometimes 
if champagne has not been
served up to this point it is brought
out and ceremoniously poured.
When everyone has been served, the
father raises his glass and says
something like this; "To my daugh
ter 
Margaret and my future sonin-law 
John. Let us drink to their
happiness."
My daughter, who is in her first
year of college has just become
engaged to a boy in the service. He
has three years more to go, the
first half to be spent overseas. They
plan to marry in three or four
years. We like the boy very much
but, in view of the length of time
involved, I feel that no announcement 
of the engagement should be
made now. Am I right?
A great deal can happen in three
or four years, especially with young
people separated. What they both
think they want now may not be
at all what they-wanted at the end
of that time. Therefore, do not announce 
the engagement, and try
to persuade them to leave each
other free until it is practical to
speak of a wedding date.
All points of eitquette taken from
Amv Vanderbuilt's Book of Etiquette. 

The big black cat that graces San
Francisco's Grace Cathedral has
been named by the staff "Magnificat." 


ANSWER

Eventually, in the course of things
a girl begins to narrow her interest
in young men to one young man
A fairly long courtship and a brief
engagement, seem to be a safe formula. 
The courtship period is casual
and informal without pledges on
either side. It gives each a chance
to know the other better - and yet
make a graceful, exit if that seems
expedient.
Wherever possible, a girl should
receive an attentive man in her
own home and not see him exclusively 
in the artificial atmosphere
of the theater restaurants, and
other places of amusement. He
needs, if possible, to evaluate her
with her family, or at least in her
own home, and to see her with her
friends, to help him decide whether
or not life with her would be comfortable 
as well as romantically
satisfying.
If her relationships with her
family are good and happy. No
girl need be ashamed to bring a
suitor into the most modest home.
even if he be from a more prosperous 
background and interests.
It is impossible for a man and
woman to know whether they are
really suited to one another if they
spend all their courtship time, in
the exclusive company of each other
Each should give the other an opportunity 
to expose to searching
consideration his best and worst
sides.
They should see each other in
the give and take of family he. Or
at least among close friends with
kindred interests. Otherwise a resulting 
marriage is in for rude
shocks and accusations of, "If I'd
known 'such and such I'd never
have married you!"
If a girl, is taken to meet a man's
family before he has said anything
definite about marriage; she should
be careful to be friendly and interested, 
but not too interested.
Often a man is wary of introducing
a girl into his own circle before he
has very nearly made up his own
mind- about her, because either she
or his family and friends might
assume a seriousness about the relationship 
that may never develop.
If he is wise, lie might warn his
family in advance not to jump to
conclusions. And the girl must pretend 
not to hear any little interfamily 
raillery concerning John and
herself.
Nothing frightens a man more
than presumption on the part of a
woman. If ever a woman needs to
be obtuse with the male it is when
he is courting her but has not yet
declared himself.
A man's gifts to any girl other

than a relative, before the engagement 
is announced, should be relatively 
impersonal. In other words,
they should hot admit or imply
intimacy or be so costly or conspicuous 
as to cause talk.
He might give her a scarf, gloves
or handkerchiefs, but not not a
dress, hat, underthings, hosiery, or
fur of any kind. He might give her
a book, but not an expensive set
of books.
If she's a bachelor Girl with her
own quarters he might give her a
cocktail shaker or a toaster, if she
needed or wanted one, and he knew
her well enough, but never a bed
jacket or anything so intimate.
He would, of course, pay for her
tax; but never embarrass her by trying 
to pay the grocery or other
household bill at the door of a shop
where they happen to he together.
To do anything that puts a girl in
an untenable position is to be less
then a gentleman.
THE EXCEPTION IS LIQUOR
While a man visiting a woman at
her home may not pay for groceries
or other household supplies should
they happen to be delivered, he
does pay for anything, such as
liquor or food, he has ordered sent
in, just as he would if he were the
host in a restaurant.
If with his hostess" permission
he has ordered a special dinner sent
in from a caterer, instead of taking
her out, he takes care of the check.
If he feels he has accepted her
hospitality too often and wishes to
replenish her bar supplies, he may
do so - within reasonable limits.
And, always with her permission.
REFUSING A GIFT. A too-intimate 
or too-expensive gift is some
times offered by a man who just
doesn't know any better. If a girl
receives such a gift she should be
tactful. She should not show it nor
try to explain it. She should, instead 
return it to the donor with
some such remark as this, "I know
you, didn't realize it, but I could 's
possibly accept such a gift from you,
much as I appreciate your kindness 
in wanting to make me a gift."
If she does this in a kindly way he
won't be too embarrassed, and she
won't be compromised.
I understand that when an engagement 
is announced, the boy's
parents call as soon as possible upon 
the parents of the girl. But my
case is very difficult. My. Daughter
who is announcing her engagement,
lives with me, and I am divorced
from her father, who lives in the
same town. We are fairly friendly.
Would it be expected of us to receive 
this call together at my home?
Should they ignore my daughter's
father or call on him separately?
Receive their call without your
former husband. They may call on
your daughter's father separately
if he is still very much part of all
of your lives. If they do call, they
call jointly, or the boy's father may
call alone on our former husband
and perhaps, during the call, arrange 
for him to come and meet
the new family, Even if your relations 
with your former husband are
friendly, you should not make the
traditional return visit a joint one.
How does a father announce the
engagement of his daughter to a
gathering of relatives and friends
at home? is a toast in order?
Yes. After all have assembled and
the party is well under way, the
father, first catching, every ones
attention, proposes a toast. Sometimes 
if champagne has not been
served up to this point it is brought
out and ceremoniously poured.
When everyone has been served, the
father raises his glass and says
something like this; "To my daugh
ter 
Margaret and my future sonin-law 
John. Let us drink to their
happiness."
My daughter, who is in her first
year of college has just become
engaged to a boy in the service. He
has three years more to go, the
first half to be spent overseas. They
plan to marry in three or four
years. We like the boy very much
but, in view of the length of time
involved, I feel that no announcement 
of the engagement should be
made now. Am I right?
A great deal can happen in three
or four years, especially with young
people separated. What they both
think they want now may not be
at all what they-wanted at the end
of that time. Therefore, do not announce 
the engagement, and try
to persuade them to leave each
other free until it is practical to
speak of a wedding date.
All points of eitquette taken from
Amv Vanderbuilt's Book of Etiquette. 

The big black cat that graces San
Francisco's Grace Cathedral has
been named by the staff "Magnificat." 


QUESTION

Eventually, in the course of things
a girl begins to narrow her interest
in young men to one young man
A fairly long courtship and a brief
engagement, seem to be a safe formula. 
The courtship period is casual
and informal without pledges on
either side. It gives each a chance
to know the other better - and yet
make a graceful, exit if that seems
expedient.
Wherever possible, a girl should
receive an attentive man in her
own home and not see him exclusively 
in the artificial atmosphere
of the theater restaurants, and
other places of amusement. He
needs, if possible, to evaluate her
with her family, or at least in her
own home, and to see her with her
friends, to help him decide whether
or not life with her would be comfortable 
as well as romantically
satisfying.
If her relationships with her
family are good and happy. No
girl need be ashamed to bring a
suitor into the most modest home.
even if he be from a more prosperous 
background and interests.
It is impossible for a man and
woman to know whether they are
really suited to one another if they
spend all their courtship time, in
the exclusive company of each other
Each should give the other an opportunity 
to expose to searching
consideration his best and worst
sides.
They should see each other in
the give and take of family he. Or
at least among close friends with
kindred interests. Otherwise a resulting 
marriage is in for rude
shocks and accusations of, "If I'd
known 'such and such I'd never
have married you!"
If a girl, is taken to meet a man's
family before he has said anything
definite about marriage; she should
be careful to be friendly and interested, 
but not too interested.
Often a man is wary of introducing
a girl into his own circle before he
has very nearly made up his own
mind- about her, because either she
or his family and friends might
assume a seriousness about the relationship 
that may never develop.
If he is wise, lie might warn his
family in advance not to jump to
conclusions. And the girl must pretend 
not to hear any little interfamily 
raillery concerning John and
herself.
Nothing frightens a man more
than presumption on the part of a
woman. If ever a woman needs to
be obtuse with the male it is when
he is courting her but has not yet
declared himself.
A man's gifts to any girl other

than a relative, before the engagement 
is announced, should be relatively 
impersonal. In other words,
they should hot admit or imply
intimacy or be so costly or conspicuous 
as to cause talk.
He might give her a scarf, gloves
or handkerchiefs, but not not a
dress, hat, underthings, hosiery, or
fur of any kind. He might give her
a book, but not an expensive set
of books.
If she's a bachelor Girl with her
own quarters he might give her a
cocktail shaker or a toaster, if she
needed or wanted one, and he knew
her well enough, but never a bed
jacket or anything so intimate.
He would, of course, pay for her
tax; but never embarrass her by trying 
to pay the grocery or other
household bill at the door of a shop
where they happen to he together.
To do anything that puts a girl in
an untenable position is to be less
then a gentleman.
THE EXCEPTION IS LIQUOR
While a man visiting a woman at
her home may not pay for groceries
or other household supplies should
they happen to be delivered, he
does pay for anything, such as
liquor or food, he has ordered sent
in, just as he would if he were the
host in a restaurant.
If with his hostess" permission
he has ordered a special dinner sent
in from a caterer, instead of taking
her out, he takes care of the check.
If he feels he has accepted her
hospitality too often and wishes to
replenish her bar supplies, he may
do so - within reasonable limits.
And, always with her permission.
REFUSING A GIFT. A too-intimate 
or too-expensive gift is some
times offered by a man who just
doesn't know any better. If a girl
receives such a gift she should be
tactful. She should not show it nor
try to explain it. She should, instead 
return it to the donor with
some such remark as this, "I know
you, didn't realize it, but I could 's
possibly accept such a gift from you,
much as I appreciate your kindness 
in wanting to make me a gift."
If she does this in a kindly way he
won't be too embarrassed, and she
won't be compromised.
I understand that when an engagement 
is announced, the boy's
parents call as soon as possible upon 
the parents of the girl. But my
case is very difficult. My. Daughter
who is announcing her engagement,
lives with me, and I am divorced
from her father, who lives in the
same town. We are fairly friendly.
Would it be expected of us to receive 
this call together at my home?
Should they ignore my daughter's
father or call on him separately?
Receive their call without your
former husband. They may call on
your daughter's father separately
if he is still very much part of all
of your lives. If they do call, they
call jointly, or the boy's father may
call alone on our former husband
and perhaps, during the call, arrange 
for him to come and meet
the new family, Even if your relations 
with your former husband are
friendly, you should not make the
traditional return visit a joint one.
How does a father announce the
engagement of his daughter to a
gathering of relatives and friends
at home? is a toast in order?
Yes. After all have assembled and
the party is well under way, the
father, first catching, every ones
attention, proposes a toast. Sometimes 
if champagne has not been
served up to this point it is brought
out and ceremoniously poured.
When everyone has been served, the
father raises his glass and says
something like this; "To my daugh
ter 
Margaret and my future sonin-law 
John. Let us drink to their
happiness."
My daughter, who is in her first
year of college has just become
engaged to a boy in the service. He
has three years more to go, the
first half to be spent overseas. They
plan to marry in three or four
years. We like the boy very much
but, in view of the length of time
involved, I feel that no announcement 
of the engagement should be
made now. Am I right?
A great deal can happen in three
or four years, especially with young
people separated. What they both
think they want now may not be
at all what they-wanted at the end
of that time. Therefore, do not announce 
the engagement, and try
to persuade them to leave each
other free until it is practical to
speak of a wedding date.
All points of eitquette taken from
Amv Vanderbuilt's Book of Etiquette. 

The big black cat that graces San
Francisco's Grace Cathedral has
been named by the staff "Magnificat." 


ANSWER:

Eventually, in the course of things
a girl begins to narrow her interest
in young men to one young man
A fairly long courtship and a brief
engagement, seem to be a safe formula. 
The courtship period is casual
and informal without pledges on
either side. It gives each a chance
to know the other better - and yet
make a graceful, exit if that seems
expedient.
Wherever possible, a girl should
receive an attentive man in her
own home and not see him exclusively 
in the artificial atmosphere
of the theater restaurants, and
other places of amusement. He
needs, if possible, to evaluate her
with her family, or at least in her
own home, and to see her with her
friends, to help him decide whether
or not life with her would be comfortable 
as well as romantically
satisfying.
If her relationships with her
family are good and happy. No
girl need be ashamed to bring a
suitor into the most modest home.
even if he be from a more prosperous 
background and interests.
It is impossible for a man and
woman to know whether they are
really suited to one another if they
spend all their courtship time, in
the exclusive company of each other
Each should give the other an opportunity 
to expose to searching
consideration his best and worst
sides.
They should see each other in
the give and take of family he. Or
at least among close friends with
kindred interests. Otherwise a resulting 
marriage is in for rude
shocks and accusations of, "If I'd
known 'such and such I'd never
have married you!"
If a girl, is taken to meet a man's
family before he has said anything
definite about marriage; she should
be careful to be friendly and interested, 
but not too interested.
Often a man is wary of introducing
a girl into his own circle before he
has very nearly made up his own
mind- about her, because either she
or his family and friends might
assume a seriousness about the relationship 
that may never develop.
If he is wise, lie might warn his
family in advance not to jump to
conclusions. And the girl must pretend 
not to hear any little interfamily 
raillery concerning John and
herself.
Nothing frightens a man more
than presumption on the part of a
woman. If ever a woman needs to
be obtuse with the male it is when
he is courting her but has not yet
declared himself.
A man's gifts to any girl other

than a relative, before the engagement 
is announced, should be relatively 
impersonal. In other words,
they should hot admit or imply
intimacy or be so costly or conspicuous 
as to cause talk.
He might give her a scarf, gloves
or handkerchiefs, but not not a
dress, hat, underthings, hosiery, or
fur of any kind. He might give her
a book, but not an expensive set
of books.
If she's a bachelor Girl with her
own quarters he might give her a
cocktail shaker or a toaster, if she
needed or wanted one, and he knew
her well enough, but never a bed
jacket or anything so intimate.
He would, of course, pay for her
tax; but never embarrass her by trying 
to pay the grocery or other
household bill at the door of a shop
where they happen to he together.
To do anything that puts a girl in
an untenable position is to be less
then a gentleman.
THE EXCEPTION IS LIQUOR
While a man visiting a woman at
her home may not pay for groceries
or other household supplies should
they happen to be delivered, he
does pay for anything, such as
liquor or food, he has ordered sent
in, just as he would if he were the
host in a restaurant.
If with his hostess" permission
he has ordered a special dinner sent
in from a caterer, instead of taking
her out, he takes care of the check.
If he feels he has accepted her
hospitality too often and wishes to
replenish her bar supplies, he may
do so - within reasonable limits.
And, always with her permission.
REFUSING A GIFT. A too-intimate 
or too-expensive gift is some
times offered by a man who just
doesn't know any better. If a girl
receives such a gift she should be
tactful. She should not show it nor
try to explain it. She should, instead 
return it to the donor with
some such remark as this, "I know
you, didn't realize it, but I could 's
possibly accept such a gift from you,
much as I appreciate your kindness 
in wanting to make me a gift."
If she does this in a kindly way he
won't be too embarrassed, and she
won't be compromised.
I understand that when an engagement 
is announced, the boy's
parents call as soon as possible upon 
the parents of the girl. But my
case is very difficult. My. Daughter
who is announcing her engagement,
lives with me, and I am divorced
from her father, who lives in the
same town. We are fairly friendly.
Would it be expected of us to receive 
this call together at my home?
Should they ignore my daughter's
father or call on him separately?
Receive their call without your
former husband. They may call on
your daughter's father separately
if he is still very much part of all
of your lives. If they do call, they
call jointly, or the boy's father may
call alone on our former husband
and perhaps, during the call, arrange 
for him to come and meet
the new family, Even if your relations 
with your former husband are
friendly, you should not make the
traditional return visit a joint one.
How does a father announce the
engagement of his daughter to a
gathering of relatives and friends
at home? is a toast in order?
Yes. After all have assembled and
the party is well under way, the
father, first catching, every ones
attention, proposes a toast. Sometimes 
if champagne has not been
served up to this point it is brought
out and ceremoniously poured.
When everyone has been served, the
father raises his glass and says
something like this; "To my daugh
ter 
Margaret and my future sonin-law 
John. Let us drink to their
happiness."
My daughter, who is in her first
year of college has just become
engaged to a boy in the service. He
has three years more to go, the
first half to be spent overseas. They
plan to marry in three or four
years. We like the boy very much
but, in view of the length of time
involved, I feel that no announcement 
of the engagement should be
made now. Am I right?
A great deal can happen in three
or four years, especially with young
people separated. What they both
think they want now may not be
at all what they-wanted at the end
of that time. Therefore, do not announce 
the engagement, and try
to persuade them to leave each
other free until it is practical to
speak of a wedding date.
All points of eitquette taken from
Amv Vanderbuilt's Book of Etiquette. 

The big black cat that graces San
Francisco's Grace Cathedral has
been named by the staff "Magnificat." 


QUESTION

Eventually, in the course of things
a girl begins to narrow her interest
in young men to one young man
A fairly long courtship and a brief
engagement, seem to be a safe formula. 
The courtship period is casual
and informal without pledges on
either side. It gives each a chance
to know the other better - and yet
make a graceful, exit if that seems
expedient.
Wherever possible, a girl should
receive an attentive man in her
own home and not see him exclusively 
in the artificial atmosphere
of the theater restaurants, and
other places of amusement. He
needs, if possible, to evaluate her
with her family, or at least in her
own home, and to see her with her
friends, to help him decide whether
or not life with her would be comfortable 
as well as romantically
satisfying.
If her relationships with her
family are good and happy. No
girl need be ashamed to bring a
suitor into the most modest home.
even if he be from a more prosperous 
background and interests.
It is impossible for a man and
woman to know whether they are
really suited to one another if they
spend all their courtship time, in
the exclusive company of each other
Each should give the other an opportunity 
to expose to searching
consideration his best and worst
sides.
They should see each other in
the give and take of family he. Or
at least among close friends with
kindred interests. Otherwise a resulting 
marriage is in for rude
shocks and accusations of, "If I'd
known 'such and such I'd never
have married you!"
If a girl, is taken to meet a man's
family before he has said anything
definite about marriage; she should
be careful to be friendly and interested, 
but not too interested.
Often a man is wary of introducing
a girl into his own circle before he
has very nearly made up his own
mind- about her, because either she
or his family and friends might
assume a seriousness about the relationship 
that may never develop.
If he is wise, lie might warn his
family in advance not to jump to
conclusions. And the girl must pretend 
not to hear any little interfamily 
raillery concerning John and
herself.
Nothing frightens a man more
than presumption on the part of a
woman. If ever a woman needs to
be obtuse with the male it is when
he is courting her but has not yet
declared himself.
A man's gifts to any girl other

than a relative, before the engagement 
is announced, should be relatively 
impersonal. In other words,
they should hot admit or imply
intimacy or be so costly or conspicuous 
as to cause talk.
He might give her a scarf, gloves
or handkerchiefs, but not not a
dress, hat, underthings, hosiery, or
fur of any kind. He might give her
a book, but not an expensive set
of books.
If she's a bachelor Girl with her
own quarters he might give her a
cocktail shaker or a toaster, if she
needed or wanted one, and he knew
her well enough, but never a bed
jacket or anything so intimate.
He would, of course, pay for her
tax; but never embarrass her by trying 
to pay the grocery or other
household bill at the door of a shop
where they happen to he together.
To do anything that puts a girl in
an untenable position is to be less
then a gentleman.
THE EXCEPTION IS LIQUOR
While a man visiting a woman at
her home may not pay for groceries
or other household supplies should
they happen to be delivered, he
does pay for anything, such as
liquor or food, he has ordered sent
in, just as he would if he were the
host in a restaurant.
If with his hostess" permission
he has ordered a special dinner sent
in from a caterer, instead of taking
her out, he takes care of the check.
If he feels he has accepted her
hospitality too often and wishes to
replenish her bar supplies, he may
do so - within reasonable limits.
And, always with her permission.
REFUSING A GIFT. A too-intimate 
or too-expensive gift is some
times offered by a man who just
doesn't know any better. If a girl
receives such a gift she should be
tactful. She should not show it nor
try to explain it. She should, instead 
return it to the donor with
some such remark as this, "I know
you, didn't realize it, but I could 's
possibly accept such a gift from you,
much as I appreciate your kindness 
in wanting to make me a gift."
If she does this in a kindly way he
won't be too embarrassed, and she
won't be compromised.
I understand that when an engagement 
is announced, the boy's
parents call as soon as possible upon 
the parents of the girl. But my
case is very difficult. My. Daughter
who is announcing her engagement,
lives with me, and I am divorced
from her father, who lives in the
same town. We are fairly friendly.
Would it be expected of us to receive 
this call together at my home?
Should they ignore my daughter's
father or call on him separately?
Receive their call without your
former husband. They may call on
your daughter's father separately
if he is still very much part of all
of your lives. If they do call, they
call jointly, or the boy's father may
call alone on our former husband
and perhaps, during the call, arrange 
for him to come and meet
the new family, Even if your relations 
with your former husband are
friendly, you should not make the
traditional return visit a joint one.
How does a father announce the
engagement of his daughter to a
gathering of relatives and friends
at home? is a toast in order?
Yes. After all have assembled and
the party is well under way, the
father, first catching, every ones
attention, proposes a toast. Sometimes 
if champagne has not been
served up to this point it is brought
out and ceremoniously poured.
When everyone has been served, the
father raises his glass and says
something like this; "To my daugh
ter 
Margaret and my future sonin-law 
John. Let us drink to their
happiness."
My daughter, who is in her first
year of college has just become
engaged to a boy in the service. He
has three years more to go, the
first half to be spent overseas. They
plan to marry in three or four
years. We like the boy very much
but, in view of the length of time
involved, I feel that no announcement 
of the engagement should be
made now. Am I right?
A great deal can happen in three
or four years, especially with young
people separated. What they both
think they want now may not be
at all what they-wanted at the end
of that time. Therefore, do not announce 
the engagement, and try
to persuade them to leave each
other free until it is practical to
speak of a wedding date.
All points of eitquette taken from
Amv Vanderbuilt's Book of Etiquette. 

The big black cat that graces San
Francisco's Grace Cathedral has
been named by the staff "Magnificat." 


ANSWER

Eventually, in the course of things
a girl begins to narrow her interest
in young men to one young man
A fairly long courtship and a brief
engagement, seem to be a safe formula. 
The courtship period is casual
and informal without pledges on
either side. It gives each a chance
to know the other better - and yet
make a graceful, exit if that seems
expedient.
Wherever possible, a girl should
receive an attentive man in her
own home and not see him exclusively 
in the artificial atmosphere
of the theater restaurants, and
other places of amusement. He
needs, if possible, to evaluate her
with her family, or at least in her
own home, and to see her with her
friends, to help him decide whether
or not life with her would be comfortable 
as well as romantically
satisfying.
If her relationships with her
family are good and happy. No
girl need be ashamed to bring a
suitor into the most modest home.
even if he be from a more prosperous 
background and interests.
It is impossible for a man and
woman to know whether they are
really suited to one another if they
spend all their courtship time, in
the exclusive company of each other
Each should give the other an opportunity 
to expose to searching
consideration his best and worst
sides.
They should see each other in
the give and take of family he. Or
at least among close friends with
kindred interests. Otherwise a resulting 
marriage is in for rude
shocks and accusations of, "If I'd
known 'such and such I'd never
have married you!"
If a girl, is taken to meet a man's
family before he has said anything
definite about marriage; she should
be careful to be friendly and interested, 
but not too interested.
Often a man is wary of introducing
a girl into his own circle before he
has very nearly made up his own
mind- about her, because either she
or his family and friends might
assume a seriousness about the relationship 
that may never develop.
If he is wise, lie might warn his
family in advance not to jump to
conclusions. And the girl must pretend 
not to hear any little interfamily 
raillery concerning John and
herself.
Nothing frightens a man more
than presumption on the part of a
woman. If ever a woman needs to
be obtuse with the male it is when
he is courting her but has not yet
declared himself.
A man's gifts to any girl other

than a relative, before the engagement 
is announced, should be relatively 
impersonal. In other words,
they should hot admit or imply
intimacy or be so costly or conspicuous 
as to cause talk.
He might give her a scarf, gloves
or handkerchiefs, but not not a
dress, hat, underthings, hosiery, or
fur of any kind. He might give her
a book, but not an expensive set
of books.
If she's a bachelor Girl with her
own quarters he might give her a
cocktail shaker or a toaster, if she
needed or wanted one, and he knew
her well enough, but never a bed
jacket or anything so intimate.
He would, of course, pay for her
tax; but never embarrass her by trying 
to pay the grocery or other
household bill at the door of a shop
where they happen to he together.
To do anything that puts a girl in
an untenable position is to be less
then a gentleman.
THE EXCEPTION IS LIQUOR
While a man visiting a woman at
her home may not pay for groceries
or other household supplies should
they happen to be delivered, he
does pay for anything, such as
liquor or food, he has ordered sent
in, just as he would if he were the
host in a restaurant.
If with his hostess" permission
he has ordered a special dinner sent
in from a caterer, instead of taking
her out, he takes care of the check.
If he feels he has accepted her
hospitality too often and wishes to
replenish her bar supplies, he may
do so - within reasonable limits.
And, always with her permission.
REFUSING A GIFT. A too-intimate 
or too-expensive gift is some
times offered by a man who just
doesn't know any better. If a girl
receives such a gift she should be
tactful. She should not show it nor
try to explain it. She should, instead 
return it to the donor with
some such remark as this, "I know
you, didn't realize it, but I could 's
possibly accept such a gift from you,
much as I appreciate your kindness 
in wanting to make me a gift."
If she does this in a kindly way he
won't be too embarrassed, and she
won't be compromised.
I understand that when an engagement 
is announced, the boy's
parents call as soon as possible upon 
the parents of the girl. But my
case is very difficult. My. Daughter
who is announcing her engagement,
lives with me, and I am divorced
from her father, who lives in the
same town. We are fairly friendly.
Would it be expected of us to receive 
this call together at my home?
Should they ignore my daughter's
father or call on him separately?
Receive their call without your
former husband. They may call on
your daughter's father separately
if he is still very much part of all
of your lives. If they do call, they
call jointly, or the boy's father may
call alone on our former husband
and perhaps, during the call, arrange 
for him to come and meet
the new family, Even if your relations 
with your former husband are
friendly, you should not make the
traditional return visit a joint one.
How does a father announce the
engagement of his daughter to a
gathering of relatives and friends
at home? is a toast in order?
Yes. After all have assembled and
the party is well under way, the
father, first catching, every ones
attention, proposes a toast. Sometimes 
if champagne has not been
served up to this point it is brought
out and ceremoniously poured.
When everyone has been served, the
father raises his glass and says
something like this; "To my daugh
ter 
Margaret and my future sonin-law 
John. Let us drink to their
happiness."
My daughter, who is in her first
year of college has just become
engaged to a boy in the service. He
has three years more to go, the
first half to be spent overseas. They
plan to marry in three or four
years. We like the boy very much
but, in view of the length of time
involved, I feel that no announcement 
of the engagement should be
made now. Am I right?
A great deal can happen in three
or four years, especially with young
people separated. What they both
think they want now may not be
at all what they-wanted at the end
of that time. Therefore, do not announce 
the engagement, and try
to persuade them to leave each
other free until it is practical to
speak of a wedding date.
All points of eitquette taken from
Amv Vanderbuilt's Book of Etiquette. 

The big black cat that graces San
Francisco's Grace Cathedral has
been named by the staff "Magnificat." 


NOTE

Eventually, in the course of things
a girl begins to narrow her interest
in young men to one young man
A fairly long courtship and a brief
engagement, seem to be a safe formula. 
The courtship period is casual
and informal without pledges on
either side. It gives each a chance
to know the other better - and yet
make a graceful, exit if that seems
expedient.
Wherever possible, a girl should
receive an attentive man in her
own home and not see him exclusively 
in the artificial atmosphere
of the theater restaurants, and
other places of amusement. He
needs, if possible, to evaluate her
with her family, or at least in her
own home, and to see her with her
friends, to help him decide whether
or not life with her would be comfortable 
as well as romantically
satisfying.
If her relationships with her
family are good and happy. No
girl need be ashamed to bring a
suitor into the most modest home.
even if he be from a more prosperous 
background and interests.
It is impossible for a man and
woman to know whether they are
really suited to one another if they
spend all their courtship time, in
the exclusive company of each other
Each should give the other an opportunity 
to expose to searching
consideration his best and worst
sides.
They should see each other in
the give and take of family he. Or
at least among close friends with
kindred interests. Otherwise a resulting 
marriage is in for rude
shocks and accusations of, "If I'd
known 'such and such I'd never
have married you!"
If a girl, is taken to meet a man's
family before he has said anything
definite about marriage; she should
be careful to be friendly and interested, 
but not too interested.
Often a man is wary of introducing
a girl into his own circle before he
has very nearly made up his own
mind- about her, because either she
or his family and friends might
assume a seriousness about the relationship 
that may never develop.
If he is wise, lie might warn his
family in advance not to jump to
conclusions. And the girl must pretend 
not to hear any little interfamily 
raillery concerning John and
herself.
Nothing frightens a man more
than presumption on the part of a
woman. If ever a woman needs to
be obtuse with the male it is when
he is courting her but has not yet
declared himself.
A man's gifts to any girl other

than a relative, before the engagement 
is announced, should be relatively 
impersonal. In other words,
they should hot admit or imply
intimacy or be so costly or conspicuous 
as to cause talk.
He might give her a scarf, gloves
or handkerchiefs, but not not a
dress, hat, underthings, hosiery, or
fur of any kind. He might give her
a book, but not an expensive set
of books.
If she's a bachelor Girl with her
own quarters he might give her a
cocktail shaker or a toaster, if she
needed or wanted one, and he knew
her well enough, but never a bed
jacket or anything so intimate.
He would, of course, pay for her
tax; but never embarrass her by trying 
to pay the grocery or other
household bill at the door of a shop
where they happen to he together.
To do anything that puts a girl in
an untenable position is to be less
then a gentleman.
THE EXCEPTION IS LIQUOR
While a man visiting a woman at
her home may not pay for groceries
or other household supplies should
they happen to be delivered, he
does pay for anything, such as
liquor or food, he has ordered sent
in, just as he would if he were the
host in a restaurant.
If with his hostess" permission
he has ordered a special dinner sent
in from a caterer, instead of taking
her out, he takes care of the check.
If he feels he has accepted her
hospitality too often and wishes to
replenish her bar supplies, he may
do so - within reasonable limits.
And, always with her permission.
REFUSING A GIFT. A too-intimate 
or too-expensive gift is some
times offered by a man who just
doesn't know any better. If a girl
receives such a gift she should be
tactful. She should not show it nor
try to explain it. She should, instead 
return it to the donor with
some such remark as this, "I know
you, didn't realize it, but I could 's
possibly accept such a gift from you,
much as I appreciate your kindness 
in wanting to make me a gift."
If she does this in a kindly way he
won't be too embarrassed, and she
won't be compromised.
I understand that when an engagement 
is announced, the boy's
parents call as soon as possible upon 
the parents of the girl. But my
case is very difficult. My. Daughter
who is announcing her engagement,
lives with me, and I am divorced
from her father, who lives in the
same town. We are fairly friendly.
Would it be expected of us to receive 
this call together at my home?
Should they ignore my daughter's
father or call on him separately?
Receive their call without your
former husband. They may call on
your daughter's father separately
if he is still very much part of all
of your lives. If they do call, they
call jointly, or the boy's father may
call alone on our former husband
and perhaps, during the call, arrange 
for him to come and meet
the new family, Even if your relations 
with your former husband are
friendly, you should not make the
traditional return visit a joint one.
How does a father announce the
engagement of his daughter to a
gathering of relatives and friends
at home? is a toast in order?
Yes. After all have assembled and
the party is well under way, the
father, first catching, every ones
attention, proposes a toast. Sometimes 
if champagne has not been
served up to this point it is brought
out and ceremoniously poured.
When everyone has been served, the
father raises his glass and says
something like this; "To my daugh
ter 
Margaret and my future sonin-law 
John. Let us drink to their
happiness."
My daughter, who is in her first
year of college has just become
engaged to a boy in the service. He
has three years more to go, the
first half to be spent overseas. They
plan to marry in three or four
years. We like the boy very much
but, in view of the length of time
involved, I feel that no announcement 
of the engagement should be
made now. Am I right?
A great deal can happen in three
or four years, especially with young
people separated. What they both
think they want now may not be
at all what they-wanted at the end
of that time. Therefore, do not announce 
the engagement, and try
to persuade them to leave each
other free until it is practical to
speak of a wedding date.
All points of eitquette taken from
Amv Vanderbuilt's Book of Etiquette. 

The big black cat that graces San
Francisco's Grace Cathedral has
been named by the staff "Magnificat." 


COMB
AWAY
GRAY
WITH
THIS
COLOR
COMB
BRUSH




LBJ Library To Be
Built Near Univ.
of Texas Law School
The University 
of Texas board of regents
said Saturday the proposed Lyndon
B. Johnson Library will be built
adjacent and to the east of Memogialo 
Stadium and the University
law school.
Chairman W. W. Heath said the
exact location will not be chosen
until after further studies by university 
architects of best uses for
the 20-acre tract.
The LBJ Library will spread over
150,000 square feet, with about twothirds 
of it used immediately for
the Johnson Library. The rest
would temporarily house valuable
library collections owned by the
university.
An estimate of the cost of the
building to house papers and per
sonal effects of the president will
not be made until after the architectural 
design and plans are
finished this fall.

Social Security
Benefits Of
$17 Billion Paid
A record high of $16.6 billion
in social security benefits was paid
out in fiscal year 1965, $788 mil.
lion more than in the previous
year, according to the 1966 Annual 
Report of the Trustees of the
Social Security Trust Funds, published 
recently following submittal
to Congress.
Income to the Trust Funds also
reached new highs in the fiscal
year, with total income exceeding 
outgo by about $225 million.
Fobert M. Ball, Commissioner of
Social Security and Secretary of
the Board of Trustees, said recently 
that the assets of the Old-Age
and Survivors Insurance Trust
Fund amounted to $202 billion at
the end of June 1965.
As of the same date, the Disability 
insurance Trust Fund, set
up in 1956 and how paying benefits 
to over 1 million disabled workers 
and their families, had total
assets of $2.0 billion.
He noted that the 1965 Amendments 
to the Social Security Acts
provided two new programs of
health insurance for persons 65 and
over along with a 7 percent increase 
in social security benefits
and other important changes in
the existing, social security program. 

The legislation created two new
trust funds — the Federal Hospital
Insurance Trust Fund and the Federal 
Supplementary Medical insurance 
Trust Fund.

TWO NEW TRUST FUNDS
A record high of $16.6 billion
in social security benefits was paid
out in fiscal year 1965, $788 mil.
lion more than in the previous
year, according to the 1966 Annual 
Report of the Trustees of the
Social Security Trust Funds, published 
recently following submittal
to Congress.
Income to the Trust Funds also
reached new highs in the fiscal
year, with total income exceeding 
outgo by about $225 million.
Fobert M. Ball, Commissioner of
Social Security and Secretary of
the Board of Trustees, said recently 
that the assets of the Old-Age
and Survivors Insurance Trust
Fund amounted to $202 billion at
the end of June 1965.
As of the same date, the Disability 
insurance Trust Fund, set
up in 1956 and how paying benefits 
to over 1 million disabled workers 
and their families, had total
assets of $2.0 billion.
He noted that the 1965 Amendments 
to the Social Security Acts
provided two new programs of
health insurance for persons 65 and
over along with a 7 percent increase 
in social security benefits
and other important changes in
the existing, social security program. 

The legislation created two new
trust funds — the Federal Hospital
Insurance Trust Fund and the Federal 
Supplementary Medical insurance 
Trust Fund.

Do's And Don'ts


Rent Subsidy Funds Approved
As Wilkins Warns GOP Solons
By the
narrow margin of eight votes —
198 to 109 — the House of Representatives 
approved an Administration 
request for a $12 million appropriation 
for rent subsidies for
poor families, with only six Republicans 
casting their votes for
the measure.
On the day of the vote, March
29, Roy Wilkins, executive director 
of the National Association for
the Advancement of Colored People
disturbed by reports of almost solid
Republican opposition to the appropriation, 
sent a telegram to Ger
ald 
Ford, House minority leader,
warning that a vote against the bill
"will be a vote against the poor
people and particularly against
poor Negro Americans."
In another telegram to six Republican 
Representatives who have
generally supported civil rights legislation, 
Mr. Wilkins expressed the
hope that they would "avoid pratisan 
action on this issue."
Congress has already enacted a
law authorizing the Government
to pay the difference between the
demanded rent and the sum poor
families are able to pay for decent

housing. The vote on March 29
was for funds to underwrite the
program which has the strong support 
of the Johnson Administration. 
The program will be administered 
by the Department of
Housing and Urban Development
of which Robert C. Weaver is Secretary. 

The text of Mr. Wilkins' telegram 
to Representative Ford follows: 

The reported ninety-nine, percent 
solid vote of Republican. Congressmen 
from Illinois, Michigan,
New Jersey, New York, and Ohio
and Pennsylvania against the Rent
supplement funding today will be
a vote against poor people and
particularly poor Negro Americans.
The legislation authorizing rent
supplements already has passed
both Houses so that refusal to vote
funds has nothing to do with dedate 
on whether such legislation
should be enacted.
Almost solid Republican opposetion 
vote today will be interpreted 
as a partisan subversion of the
legislation to aid poor people in securing 
and moving up in the housing 
that will help them to become 
better citizens. This measure
is part of the necessary counteraction 
to smoldering and potentially 
explosive situations in urban
concentrations.
If poor Negro citizens are to
locked into ghettos because a departisan 
vote denied rent assistance 
to the upward striving families, 
what inducement is there for
stable Negro community elements
to resist urgings to extreme methods 
of combatting racial discrimination 
and denial.
National Association for Advancement 
of Colored People feels
strongly that as Republican House
Leader you should marshal a vote
in support of rent supplements and
thereby lend vital encouragement
to the badered Negro city dweller
who so desperately needs and so
throughly deserve it.

James Meredith Coming To
Klan-Active Southside Va.
James
Meredith, who was the first known
Negro to be admitted to the University 
of Mississippi at Oxfordand 
did so amid violence that
prompted the late President John
F. Kennedy, to send in federal
troops — is coining to this Klanactive. 
Southside Virginia area for
a public appearance on Sunday,
April 17.
He will speak then at four o'clock 
program at the oak Grove
Baptist Church on Virginia Highway 
46 under the auspices of the
men of the church as his contri
button to a campaign for a $40,000
fund to build an educational building 
which is the congregation's

goal.
Mr. Meredith will fly to Richmond 
from New York City, where
he is continuing his studies toward
a career as an attorney, and drive
from there to Lawrenceville in the
company of the church's pastor, the
Rev. Emmett Burns, and a delegation 
from the congregation.
As a security measure, an unconfirmed 
report, has it, town and
county police and members of the
state highway patrol will be asked
to be on hand during his Visit
and particularly during the meeting 
at the church. While he was
at Ole Miss the FBI provided protection 
for Mr. Meredith and it is
not unlikely that the G-Men will
be invited to share the protective
measures felt necessary.
Rev. Mr. Burn, now completing
his theological studies at Virginia
Union University, Richmond, while
serving also as pastor of the local
church, was a college; mate and
close friend of Mr. Meredith's at
Jackson (Miss) State College before 
his tumultous enrollment under 
federal court order at Ole Miss.
The sponsoring committee plans
to provide outside-the-church seats
for hundreds who may be able to
gain admission to the 500 capacity
sanctuary, as well as outside loud
speakers for the overflow.
The church is located, about two
miles north Russell High School
between Lawrenceville and Cochran
on the state highway.
The Men's Day committee consists
of Howard Walker, Chairman. J.
H. Reese, Joseph Graves, and Wilham 
Tucker.
A planning meeting of the pastor 
and the committee was (scheduled 
to be) held Monday evening
April 4, at the church.
Following the mass meeting a reception, 
with 100 invited guests, is
planned at Carl's Fountain in nearby 
Alberta. Just off U S. Highway 
No. 1.
Special invitations have been extended 
to the congregations of
Southside Virginia churches, and
the general' public is being invited.
Michale Chaplin, 19, son of Charlet
Chaplin, makes his film debut playing 
a Greenwich Village beatnik
in "Promise Her Anything."

WIGLET HAIR STYLES












#720 "LE-FETITE"—$8.50
.


YWCA's Urged To Organize
Pre-White House Meetings
YWCAs throughout 
the United States have been
urged by their National President,
Mrs. Lloyd J. Marti of Lincoln, Nebraska, 
to organize locally 'preWhite 
House" conferences to gather
material for and support the White
House conference on implementing
civil rights called by President
Johnson for June 1-2, 1966, it was
announced Monday.
Local YWCAs have been asked to
convene representatives of women's
organizations in their areas, including 
college and university
groups, cultural and religious organizations, 
women's civic, south,
educational, and coordinating
groups.
In her letter to Associations Mrs.
Marti included a plan for a oneday 
pre-White House Conference
(attached). Summaries from these
sessions will be incorporated in a
report from the National Board of
the YWCA to the White House
Conference.
The National YWCA which has
had an interracial charter since
1946 and had its first Negro National 
Board member in 1908 is
represented on the Council for the
White House Conference by Miss
Dorothy I, Height, who is director
of the National Board's Office of
Racial integration and president of
the National Council of Negro
Women.
The emphasis in the one-day conference 
would be on education, jobs
and economic security, housing and
administration of justice. The group
would be considering how the existing 
laws can be fully implemented 
and what may need to be achieved 
information would be gathered
on the nature and extent of employment 
for Negroes in the community, 
the degree to which schools
are integrated, to what extent
housing is open how justice is being 
administered in the community. 

At its last national convention in
Cleveland in 1964 the YWCA of the
U. S. A. voted for the Association
a goal of "Conscious and deliberate
effort to assure complete racial integration 
in all aspects of YWCA
membership, leadership, and program, 
in the use of facilities, and
in administrative and employment
practices, and also to work for
reconciliation and full integration
immediately in all areas of the communities' 
life including education,
employment, housing, public facilities, 
and religious and social institutions." 

In her letter to Associations Mrs.
Marti said in part:
"We in the YWCA are convinced
that when people of goodwill come
together close to home to share
facts, their hopes and experiences
in the light of the nation's goal and
our YWCA program priority in
racial integration they can make
a difference on the side of greater
justice, equality and goodwill. This
is especially important now when
many people seem to think the. Job
has been finished with, the passage
of the Civil Rights Act of 1964.
Apathy abounds in the face of potentially 
explosive situations in
many of our communities. YWCA
leaders dare not observe in silence
lest we forfeit hard-won gains.
"Every community and student
Association can make a "positive
contribution by serving as the
initiator by calling together women's 
organizations from all segments
of the community for a one-day
conference. This is a significant opportunity 
to express our YWCA
commitment to the fulfillment of
Constitutional rights and to the
achievement of full equality."

ASHE WINS TITLE
Arthur Ashe of Richmond, Va.,
easily defeated Cliff Richy of Dallas 
6-3, 6-4. 6-4 Sunday to win
the men's singles title in the Caribe
Hilton tennis tournament. Norma
Baylon of Argentina won the ladies' 
singles title with a 6-3,7-5 victory 
over Mary Anne Eisel, former
U. S. junior champion.
A Minnesota farmer posted this
sign after the disastrous spring
foods, of 1965: "Choice lots for
Sale by Owner. $1.79 a Gallon."