Memphis World
Memphis World Publishing Co.
1966-11-12
J. A. Beauchamp

WORLD OF RELIGION
Whether American Catholics may
eat meat on Fridays will be decided 
this month at a meeting of
the U. S. hierarchy in Washington,
D. C.
The 260 cardinals, archbishops
and bishops who'll meet at Catholic. 
Non-Irish members of the
sharply divided on the question.
Chances for a change in the rule
of Friday abs are rated by
close observers a about 50-50.
In a decree issued last Feb. 17,
Pope Paul VI left it up to the bishops 
of each country to adopt
penitential practices "more suited
to our times" in place of the traditional 
discipline of abstaining
from meat.
So far, the hierarchies of Italy
France, Canada, Mexico and the
African republic of Uer Volta
have taken formal action to end
meatless Fridays.
In the United States strong opposition 
to an change has developed 
among bishops of Irish descent.
Not eating meat on Friday has long
been regarded in Irish  as
one of the hallmarks of a true Catholic 
Non Irish members of the
U. S. hierarchy are generally favorable 
to the new approach to en 
suggested by Pope Paul.
The Pope The Pope made clear
that he sought not to abolish but
to deepn the practice of pentail
self-de. But he said that fasting 
would be more meaningful if
undertaken as a personal voluntary
act rather than in gradpl 
with an inflexible law.
Canadian bishops, who abolish
meaess Fridays lass month 
every Caho to find his own substitute. 
They mentioned, a possible 
examples, eating less food, regardless 
of type giving to the po
guiding youth doing works of
mercy such as visiting the 
absnene from alcohol or giving
up some favorite pleasure, such as
watching television, to spend the
same time in Bible reading.
Friday the day on which Christ
was crucified  has been observed
by Christians as a day of 
since the earliest years of te
church. The custom of abstaining
from meat on Friday developed as
early as the second century A. D.
and was made a church law by
Pope Nicholas  in the ninth century. 

Leading social scientists agree
that there has been a sharp decline 
in anti-Sin the United 
States since World War II. But
they differ widely on whether this

represents a permanent change in
American attitudes.
Their vaying appraisals were published 
this week by the American
Jewish Committee in a book-length
study entitled "Jews in the Mind
of America."
The study included the findings
of a series of nationwide public
opinion polls conducted since 1937,
which show a marked decline in
the number of Americans holding
hosile steroypes of Jews, or expressing 
unwillingness to associate
with Jews. There was a corresponding 
rise in the number of people
who thought of Jews as members
of a religious group, rather than
as a rae.
The following "help wanted" ad
appeared this week in the magazine
Presbyterian Life:
Adventurous young men to pit
their skills, strength and understanding 
against the force that
would make man something other
than God intended. Courage an
absolute necessity for the opposition
is strong and articulate Strength
and endurance needed to overcome
deadening inertia. Compossion,
warmth and creativity also necessary 
attributes. Hours: 24 a day
generally not enough. Pay: Incommesrate 
with the dangers involved 
Satisfaction No other work
can be more satisfying.
Applicants willing to undertake
the risks should address themselves
to.
The Christian Ministry.

WANTED
Whether American Catholics may
eat meat on Fridays will be decided 
this month at a meeting of
the U. S. hierarchy in Washington,
D. C.
The 260 cardinals, archbishops
and bishops who'll meet at Catholic. 
Non-Irish members of the
sharply divided on the question.
Chances for a change in the rule
of Friday abs are rated by
close observers a about 50-50.
In a decree issued last Feb. 17,
Pope Paul VI left it up to the bishops 
of each country to adopt
penitential practices "more suited
to our times" in place of the traditional 
discipline of abstaining
from meat.
So far, the hierarchies of Italy
France, Canada, Mexico and the
African republic of Uer Volta
have taken formal action to end
meatless Fridays.
In the United States strong opposition 
to an change has developed 
among bishops of Irish descent.
Not eating meat on Friday has long
been regarded in Irish  as
one of the hallmarks of a true Catholic 
Non Irish members of the
U. S. hierarchy are generally favorable 
to the new approach to en 
suggested by Pope Paul.
The Pope The Pope made clear
that he sought not to abolish but
to deepn the practice of pentail
self-de. But he said that fasting 
would be more meaningful if
undertaken as a personal voluntary
act rather than in gradpl 
with an inflexible law.
Canadian bishops, who abolish
meaess Fridays lass month 
every Caho to find his own substitute. 
They mentioned, a possible 
examples, eating less food, regardless 
of type giving to the po
guiding youth doing works of
mercy such as visiting the 
absnene from alcohol or giving
up some favorite pleasure, such as
watching television, to spend the
same time in Bible reading.
Friday the day on which Christ
was crucified  has been observed
by Christians as a day of 
since the earliest years of te
church. The custom of abstaining
from meat on Friday developed as
early as the second century A. D.
and was made a church law by
Pope Nicholas  in the ninth century. 

Leading social scientists agree
that there has been a sharp decline 
in anti-Sin the United 
States since World War II. But
they differ widely on whether this

represents a permanent change in
American attitudes.
Their vaying appraisals were published 
this week by the American
Jewish Committee in a book-length
study entitled "Jews in the Mind
of America."
The study included the findings
of a series of nationwide public
opinion polls conducted since 1937,
which show a marked decline in
the number of Americans holding
hosile steroypes of Jews, or expressing 
unwillingness to associate
with Jews. There was a corresponding 
rise in the number of people
who thought of Jews as members
of a religious group, rather than
as a rae.
The following "help wanted" ad
appeared this week in the magazine
Presbyterian Life:
Adventurous young men to pit
their skills, strength and understanding 
against the force that
would make man something other
than God intended. Courage an
absolute necessity for the opposition
is strong and articulate Strength
and endurance needed to overcome
deadening inertia. Compossion,
warmth and creativity also necessary 
attributes. Hours: 24 a day
generally not enough. Pay: Incommesrate 
with the dangers involved 
Satisfaction No other work
can be more satisfying.
Applicants willing to undertake
the risks should address themselves
to.
The Christian Ministry.

Huge Gain Shown
In Tax Collections
In State Of Georgia
The increase in Georia state and
local tax collections in the past
 years is equal to a $66 in 
for every resident of the
, Tax Foundation, Inc. said
today.
Td state and  tax collections 
in Georia in fiscal 1965
were $83 million of  per re, 
in fiscal 1957 the  was
 million or $125 per capita.
The 53 percent increase in taxes
 with a 47 percent increase 
in personal inome per capita 
in the State over the period,
the Foundation said.
State and local taxes in Georgia 
are $42 per person less than
 Florida, where the $233 per
person ratio is the highest among
the 12 Southern States according
to fiscal 1965 collections.
Nationally Georgia's per capita
tax  is $75 below the U. S.
average of $266 based on rates
ranging from a low of 59 in Arkansas 
to a high of $79 per person 
in California.
State and loal tax collections
have  fiscal 1957, according 
to the Foundation. From
 million then the total increased 
to $519 billion in fiscal
195. The Bureau of the Census
estimates toal collections increased 
10 percent during fiscal 1966
to $569 billion, although the official 
state-by-state collection
figures will not be available unil 
next summer. A recent Tax

Foundation survey showed new and
increased taxes adopted by state
legislatures this year alone will
add more than a half billion dollars 
annually to the total.

COMB
AWAY
GRAY
Just comb and brush to add cof
tone. Washes out. Will not rub off.
NOT A DYE. Easiest, quickest way
to add color gradually AVOIDS
THAT SUDDEN DYED LOOK.
Brush attached for removing excess
coloring. Prevents soiling, rubbing
off. Comes in Plastic Case. Can
be carried in pocket or purse.
Comes in all shades: Black to
Platinum Blue.
Just write, state shade. Pay only
$1.98 on delivery plus postage
Money back if not delighted.
Gold Medal Hair Products, Inc.
Dept. -1, Brooklyn 35, New Y

WITH
THIS
COLOR
COMB
BRUSH
Just comb and brush to add cof
tone. Washes out. Will not rub off.
NOT A DYE. Easiest, quickest way
to add color gradually AVOIDS
THAT SUDDEN DYED LOOK.
Brush attached for removing excess
coloring. Prevents soiling, rubbing
off. Comes in Plastic Case. Can
be carried in pocket or purse.
Comes in all shades: Black to
Platinum Blue.
Just write, state shade. Pay only
$1.98 on delivery plus postage
Money back if not delighted.
Gold Medal Hair Products, Inc.
Dept. -1, Brooklyn 35, New Y

Real Estate
Reminders

The major source of maintenance 
problems in school buildings
are floors and walls. These same
surfaces also can present the most
frequent causes for replacement.
Selection of materials for these
areas is of paramount importance
from an 
They must be as care-free as
possible as well as rugged and
durable. They must also be attractive, 
if they are to be accepted 
as the structure's "showcase." 
A material that  these
requirements s 
. Once
in
the  association of American 
 points out.
... HIGH STANDARD CERAMIC
TILE
Ceramic tile's reputation as a
wet area necessity for bathrooms,
showers and kitchens is rightfully 
earned because of the material's
impervious nature, the Tile Council 
of America points out. Water
and moisture cannot dislge or
damage it. Unsanitary elements
cannot g to it. Domestic manufacturers 
who provide consistent
quality products, the trade association 
of American the makers
says, are now manufacturing tile
bearing the "Quality Certified"
trademark of the Tile Council.

HIGH STANDARD CERAMIC
TILE

The major source of maintenance 
problems in school buildings
are floors and walls. These same
surfaces also can present the most
frequent causes for replacement.
Selection of materials for these
areas is of paramount importance
from an 
They must be as care-free as
possible as well as rugged and
durable. They must also be attractive, 
if they are to be accepted 
as the structure's "showcase." 
A material that  these
requirements s 
. Once
in
the  association of American 
 points out.
... HIGH STANDARD CERAMIC
TILE
Ceramic tile's reputation as a
wet area necessity for bathrooms,
showers and kitchens is rightfully 
earned because of the material's
impervious nature, the Tile Council 
of America points out. Water
and moisture cannot dislge or
damage it. Unsanitary elements
cannot g to it. Domestic manufacturers 
who provide consistent
quality products, the trade association 
of American the makers
says, are now manufacturing tile
bearing the "Quality Certified"
trademark of the Tile Council.

Methodist Church
Conference Starts
November 8th
The special session of the General 
Conference of the Methodist
Church opened Tuesday, Nov. 8 at
10 a.m. in the Internal Ballroom of
the Conrad Hon Hotel, to dea
with two major issues of union:
1. The Commission on Interjurisdictional 
Relations will make a
progress report on the elimination
of the Central Jurisdiction in the
Methodist Church.
2. Secondary the evangelical United
Brethern Church (also meeting now
in the Conrad Hilon) with the
Methodist Church will have a special 
joint committee to coordinate 
consideration of the plan of
union of the two churches.
Significant to the elimination of
the Central Jurisdiction is the
fact that between 1940 and 1963
as many many as 373,327 members
of the Methodist church were in
the Central Jurisdiction — a predominantly 
Negro jurisdiction, presided 
over by four Negro Bishops,
and 25,000 Negro members were in
other jurisdictions. The Central
Jurisdiction overlapped several
jurisdictions. By 1965, approximately 
132,046 Negro members were in
other jurisdictions and being integrated 
into the respective conferences. 

In 196 a fourth central jurisdiction 
conference was integrated,
moving some 10,000 members. Bishops 
rice A. Tayor of Princeton,
New Jersey, and James S. Thomas
of Des Mos, ing 
predominantly white areas.
Significant  the
two churches is the historical fa
that both churches grew out of the
religious experiences of John Wesley. 


Dr. Horace E. Tate
Opens Book Week
At Albany State
Dr. Horace E. Tate, executive
secretary of the Georgia Teachers
and Education Association, opened 
the American Book Week observance 
Sunday at Albany State
College.
Theme for the week's observance 
is Education Adds Up." Dr.
Tate, who is also a member of
the Atlanta Board of Education,
spoke on the Sunday theme ...
"To Human Dignity."

Atlanta Coed Star
in "Kismet" At
Stephens College
Miss Carol
A, daughter of Mrs. 
Mae Craft , 1053 Washington
Heights Terr, will join professional 
actor in the musical, "Kismet,' 
to be presented by the Stephen 
College Division of the Arts
on Friday and Saturday, Dec. 2
and 3. She will be Ayah.
"Kismet," which means "fate" or
'destinity,' is the story of a starving 
but dauntless beggar in 
Baghdad who sells poems outside a
mosque.
His tale is an example of the
unpredictability of human life.
With luck, audacity and wit he
is able to rise from poverty to
become E in a single day. He
disposes of his enemy, the fierce
Wazir of Police, takes over the
Wazirs alluring wife and arranges
the marriage of his charming
daughter to the Caliph.
Stranger in Paradise" is just one

of the hit tunes from Kismet.
Two other outstanding songs are
"Baubles Bangles and Beads." and
"This is My Beloved."
Famous actors and actresses who
have played Kismet" roles in the
past include Ois Skinner. Honald 
Coleman, Marlene Dietrich, Ann
Blyth, Delores Gray, Vic Damone,
Monty Wooley and Sebastian Cabo. 

Miss Dove is a sophomore at
Stephens a four year residential
college for women.

BURNS & SCALDS
Relieves pain, itching, of minor burns —
Switch to super-refined hospital quality



Another quality product of Plough, Inc.

POLICE CALL IN SICK —
Police patrol cars stand idle in the snow in Pontiac, Mich., where
in one day 66 patrolmen and detectives called in "sick." What they're sick about is their
pay. Captains, lieutenants and sergeants had to do beat they could in the city of 85,000.

Pitman Moore Names New
Director Of Medical Services
James
E. Bowes, MD, public-health physician 
and epidemiologist with
broad experiences in mass immunization, 
has accepted a position
as Director of Medical Services To
Pitman-Moore Division of The Dow
Chemical Company here, John T.
Anderson MD, Medical Director,
announced today.
Dr. Bowes resigned as Chief Epidemiologist 
in the Rhode Island
Department of Health, a position
he has held since 1962, to accept
the assignment.
While in Rhode Island, Dr.
Bowes organized and executed an
effective program to eliminate
measles in the state. He also was
very active in establishing polio
immunization clinics and conducted 
a mass program in 1963 in
Rhode Island following an exceptionally 
effective program in Salt
Lake City, Utah.
The Utah campaign in 1957 was
one of the first mass immunization 
programs in the entire country. 
Both the polio and measles
campaigns in Rhode Island were
sponsored by the Medical Society
with Dr. Bowes acting as co-ordinator 
and liason between the
medical society and the State Department 
of Health.
Commenting on the appointment, 
D. F. Bledsoe, PitmanMcore 
General Manager, said:
"Expanding Pitman-Moore activities 
throughout the world erquire
the services of a man of Dr.
Bowes' calibre and training. And
too with the public-health segment 
of our human-health business 
becoming increasingly important, 
his appointment is especially
timely."
Mr. Bledsoe indicated that Dr.
Bowes' appointment was in keeping 
with the needs Of the company 
relative to products which
may be forth-coming. "Some current 
research efforts are expected 
to result in important immunizing 
agents which may well lend

themselves to use in mass imumnization 
and early elimination of
the diseases involved. These trends
indicate a need for a specialist in
this area," Mr. Bledsoe said.
Dr. Bowes' knowledge, and experience 
will be made available to
physicians in this and other countries 
as part of Pitman-Moore's
effort to serve the medical profession. 

A native of Washington, D. C.,
Dr. Bowes was awarded his BS degree 
in Biology from Georgetown
University. He received his Doctor
of Medicine degree from the New
York State Medical College in 1949
and interd at Mary Immaculate 
Hospital, Jamaica, Long Is
land, 
with residency training in
Obstetrics and Gynecology at St.
Johns Hospital in Cleveland, Ohio.
Dr. Bowes also did graduate
work in Obstetrics and Gynecology 
at the University of Pennsylvania 
graduate school of medicine
and in the department of Epidemiology 
and Public Health at Yale
University where he received a
masters degree in Public Health.
He is a lecturer and author of
numerous scientific papers. He is
a member of the American Medical 
Association the American College 
of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, 
the American Sterility
Society and the American Sterility
Health Association.

New System
For Selecting
Fulton Jurors
A new system of selecting prospective 
jurors is expected to offer 
a chance for more Negroes and
women to serve on Fulton County
jurys was announced by a special 
jury selection commission.
A new jury list, which was more
than a year in the making, has
been completed. It contains names
of citizens who made tax returns
for 1965 and agreed to fill out a
questionaire sent to them.
While the new system identifies
a prospective juror by sex it does
not have race listed. Only the
person's address could indicate this
factor.
Some 19 Negroes happened be
selected for jury duty Oct. 24, the
first week the new system was put
to use. This number included three
Negro women, according to Mrs.
Lillian Witcher, jury clerk.
The 1 jury panels presently a
waiting call contains about 25 Negroes, 
of which 12 are Negro women 
according to Mrs. Witcher.


OF
MINOR RHEUMATIC PAIN
with proved
analgesic
action
If you suffer the annoying minor
pains of rheumatism, neuritis,
muscle aches, arthritis, help yourself 
to blessed temporary relief
with proved salicylate action of
C-2223. Thousands keep it handy,

use it regularly, time and time
again whenever such pain makes
them miserable. Many call C-2223
"the old reliable". Today, for pain
relief you'll welcome every time,
ask for C-2223. At your drugstore.
"C-2223"
Temporary Relief For Minor Pains of
RHEUMATISM, ARTHRITIS, NEURITIS.
LUMBAGO, MUSCLE ACHES

Inspector Of Funeral Homes
Announces Text Questions
In the following statements, place
a plus if the statement is true,
and a zero if the statement is
false, in the space provided.
1. —– A parasite is an organism 
that lives on dead organic
matter
2. —– Boiling kills all vegetative 
bacteria in five minutes
3. —– Skin is sterile after
washing with soap and water.
4. —– Bactericides kill pathogenic 
bacteria only
5. —– Some spores can resist 
boiling for thirty minutes
6. —– A disinfected object is
always sterile
7. —– The destruction of all
bacteria present is designated as
disinfection
8. —– Phenol is retarded in
its disinfecting action by the presence 
of organic matter and it is
therefore not recommended as a
disinfectant for such things as
feces, blood, pus and aspirated material 

9. —– Mercuric chloride is
not a good disinfectant to use on
embalming instruments
10. —– An ideal disinfectant
is toxic to all pathogenic agents
11. —– The length of time an
object remains sterile depends on
how well it is protected from microorganisms 
after sterilization
12. —– Steam under pressure
is hotter than free - flowing steam
and the higher the pressure the
higher the temperature
13. —– By virulence is meant
the ability of bacteria to be overcome 
by the defensive powers of

the host
14. —– The incubation period
of a disease is the period elapsing
between the time of infection and
the onset of the disease
15. —– As a rule, bacteria are
more virulent when freshly discharged 
from the bpdy of a person 
ill of the disease
16. —– Tetanus is practically
always due to spores that have
been introduced into a wound
17. —– Insect carriers are important 
in the spread of malaria
18. —– Feelings (on the part
of the survivos) of desertion, and
rejection by the deceased person
are very uncommon among those
who experience bereavement
19. —– Most people feel that
they have done everything possible
to make life more pleasant for
those they love
20. —– The though that we
might have done more during life
for a person whom we love is the
basis for guilt feelings
21. —– An excessive display
of grief may reflect deep feelings
of guilt
22. —– A feeling of anger is
one of the emotional reactions that
often accompany bereavement
23. —– To restrain emotional 
expression is the quickest way
of overcoming grief
24. —– Most people find that
the best way of resolving grief is
to shut oneself off from other people 

25. —– It is unwise to reminisce 
about the life of a person
who has died
26. —– Most people face the
reality at death of a loved person
very quickly and readily
27. —– Religion plays an insignificant 
role in providing consolation 
to bereaved persons
28. —– It is difficult to interpret 
death to young children
29. —– It is well for children
to realize that death is something
which comes to everyone in time
30. —– Attendance at a funeral 
helps to emphasize the reality
of death
31. —– The intellectual and
emotional acceptance of the fact
of death ocuyr at the same time
32. —– Expression of anger
and os usually dnishes its
intensity
33. —– In ent, feelings 
of guilt are equally  whether 
based on actual facts or on
imagined incidents
34. —– Making funeral arrangements 
gives mourners a useful 
and meaningful activity
35. —– The funeral serves its
most useful purpose, when it min
imizes 
the reality of death
36. —– Viewing of the remains 
of a member of one 
is contrary to accepted principles
of grief therapy

ER MUFFS —
Princess Margaret 
wears a fur-trimmed
hat complete with ear muffs
as she visits the Royal Brierley 
Crystal. Glassworks at
Brierley Hill, England.

WIG GLAMOUR

 —  — elanese acetate looks like Real
Hair...soft and lovely. Come in Shades: Black,
Off-Black: Brown Auburn, Blend or Mixed Grey
SEND NO MONEY — Just send your name and
your address. State shade. Pay postman $4.95 plus
postage on delivery. Hurry while the supply lasts.

VALMOR HAIR STYLES
Dept M-652
2411 Prairie Ave., Chicago 60616

ELEANOR

It has been said that a man gives up more than a woman
does when he marries. I believe this statement is true. When a
woman marries her home, her children and her husband become 
the most important thing in her life. But what comes first
to a man is his career, his work, the development of his talent.
When a woman marries, she is
finally plunging herself into real
life. She is at last taking on the
task she has been aiming for since
she first understood the difference
between boys and girls. This same
moment comes to a man not when
he marries, but when he teaches
that first class, makes that first
executive judgment, designs that
first book jacket.
Thus, what irritates men, what
makes us sometimes resentful and
causes us to pine for the old bachelor 
days, are the ways in which
marriage impinges upon the world
of our first concerns. I have made
a commitment to my marriage, and
sometimes it is a nuisance. I may
be committed for example, to rearrange 
a whole week's work schedule
in order to take my wife to dinner
and the theater for no better reason 
than that I know she needs it.
I am often committed to hurry thru
my conference and turn down the
pleasant drink afterward to make
the 5:06 train, just because I said
I would be home for dinner.
To be sure, women also make
sacrifices when they marry. I have
seen the dust on the keys of my
wife's piano; I have seen her
fingernails cracked from the loving
labor of banking the walk with
iris. Nonetheless, her sacrifices were
made for her marriage, her home,
her family. Rightly or wrongly, the
average man believes that while
his wjfe may "belong" to him, the
marriage belongs to his wife.
Yet the astonishing truth is that,
over the entire history of civilization, 
most men have married and
stayed married. This statement
is as true of the United States
today as it was of Shapespeaere's
England. Obviously, a man must
get something out of marriage —
enough to make it worth the annoyances 
its restrictions bring. He
must, in fact, get quite a lot out
of marriage — and he does.
The first thing he gets out of
it — to put no fine point on it —
is sex. A man marries in the hope

of achieving at least a satisfactory
sex life. You can discount 90 percent 
of what you hear about masculine 
desire for the promiscous
pursuit of women. The constant
search for a sexual partner which
bachelors must endure is a bore
and a chore. Young, good-looking,
complaisant playgirls are in far
greater supply in magazine than in
real life. The unmarried man may
spend endless — often ugly —
hours calling numbers from little
black books, arranging seductive
little dinners which go nowhere, or
at best, achieving pointless little
affairs which end with tears and
bitterness.
The bachelor sacrifices, too much
for the sake of variety. Most often
the men who have truly rewarding
sexual experiences are married. It
takes time to build a satisfactory
sex life based on mutual understanding 
and consideration, love
and respect. It takes time to learn
how to decorate the sex act with
meaning, to polish it with virtue.
This ripeness no bachelor can earn
with the kind of brief sexual episode
he has in mind.
Yet sex is not the most important 
factor in keeping a man wedded. 
Let nobody mistake it: Children 
have carried more marriages
over rough spots than a nation
full of marriage counselors.
Most men flight in their children. 
While women's love for their
children is all-encompassing, forgives 
all and accepts all, men are
likely to be a little more objective,
to be a little more able to stand
back and see their children as people 
separate from themselves —
people with strengths and weaknesses, 
vices and virtues. To come
to know his child's developing personality 
— to watch it grow and
open out — is a marvelous experience 
for a man.
NOTE — Next week A Man
Without Children to be continued
next week.
This article is published in
Reader's Digest Oct. 1966 issue.

When A Man Marries

It has been said that a man gives up more than a woman
does when he marries. I believe this statement is true. When a
woman marries her home, her children and her husband become 
the most important thing in her life. But what comes first
to a man is his career, his work, the development of his talent.
When a woman marries, she is
finally plunging herself into real
life. She is at last taking on the
task she has been aiming for since
she first understood the difference
between boys and girls. This same
moment comes to a man not when
he marries, but when he teaches
that first class, makes that first
executive judgment, designs that
first book jacket.
Thus, what irritates men, what
makes us sometimes resentful and
causes us to pine for the old bachelor 
days, are the ways in which
marriage impinges upon the world
of our first concerns. I have made
a commitment to my marriage, and
sometimes it is a nuisance. I may
be committed for example, to rearrange 
a whole week's work schedule
in order to take my wife to dinner
and the theater for no better reason 
than that I know she needs it.
I am often committed to hurry thru
my conference and turn down the
pleasant drink afterward to make
the 5:06 train, just because I said
I would be home for dinner.
To be sure, women also make
sacrifices when they marry. I have
seen the dust on the keys of my
wife's piano; I have seen her
fingernails cracked from the loving
labor of banking the walk with
iris. Nonetheless, her sacrifices were
made for her marriage, her home,
her family. Rightly or wrongly, the
average man believes that while
his wjfe may "belong" to him, the
marriage belongs to his wife.
Yet the astonishing truth is that,
over the entire history of civilization, 
most men have married and
stayed married. This statement
is as true of the United States
today as it was of Shapespeaere's
England. Obviously, a man must
get something out of marriage —
enough to make it worth the annoyances 
its restrictions bring. He
must, in fact, get quite a lot out
of marriage — and he does.
The first thing he gets out of
it — to put no fine point on it —
is sex. A man marries in the hope

of achieving at least a satisfactory
sex life. You can discount 90 percent 
of what you hear about masculine 
desire for the promiscous
pursuit of women. The constant
search for a sexual partner which
bachelors must endure is a bore
and a chore. Young, good-looking,
complaisant playgirls are in far
greater supply in magazine than in
real life. The unmarried man may
spend endless — often ugly —
hours calling numbers from little
black books, arranging seductive
little dinners which go nowhere, or
at best, achieving pointless little
affairs which end with tears and
bitterness.
The bachelor sacrifices, too much
for the sake of variety. Most often
the men who have truly rewarding
sexual experiences are married. It
takes time to build a satisfactory
sex life based on mutual understanding 
and consideration, love
and respect. It takes time to learn
how to decorate the sex act with
meaning, to polish it with virtue.
This ripeness no bachelor can earn
with the kind of brief sexual episode
he has in mind.
Yet sex is not the most important 
factor in keeping a man wedded. 
Let nobody mistake it: Children 
have carried more marriages
over rough spots than a nation
full of marriage counselors.
Most men flight in their children. 
While women's love for their
children is all-encompassing, forgives 
all and accepts all, men are
likely to be a little more objective,
to be a little more able to stand
back and see their children as people 
separate from themselves —
people with strengths and weaknesses, 
vices and virtues. To come
to know his child's developing personality 
— to watch it grow and
open out — is a marvelous experience 
for a man.
NOTE — Next week A Man
Without Children to be continued
next week.
This article is published in
Reader's Digest Oct. 1966 issue.

JAMES LINCOLN COLLIER

It has been said that a man gives up more than a woman
does when he marries. I believe this statement is true. When a
woman marries her home, her children and her husband become 
the most important thing in her life. But what comes first
to a man is his career, his work, the development of his talent.
When a woman marries, she is
finally plunging herself into real
life. She is at last taking on the
task she has been aiming for since
she first understood the difference
between boys and girls. This same
moment comes to a man not when
he marries, but when he teaches
that first class, makes that first
executive judgment, designs that
first book jacket.
Thus, what irritates men, what
makes us sometimes resentful and
causes us to pine for the old bachelor 
days, are the ways in which
marriage impinges upon the world
of our first concerns. I have made
a commitment to my marriage, and
sometimes it is a nuisance. I may
be committed for example, to rearrange 
a whole week's work schedule
in order to take my wife to dinner
and the theater for no better reason 
than that I know she needs it.
I am often committed to hurry thru
my conference and turn down the
pleasant drink afterward to make
the 5:06 train, just because I said
I would be home for dinner.
To be sure, women also make
sacrifices when they marry. I have
seen the dust on the keys of my
wife's piano; I have seen her
fingernails cracked from the loving
labor of banking the walk with
iris. Nonetheless, her sacrifices were
made for her marriage, her home,
her family. Rightly or wrongly, the
average man believes that while
his wjfe may "belong" to him, the
marriage belongs to his wife.
Yet the astonishing truth is that,
over the entire history of civilization, 
most men have married and
stayed married. This statement
is as true of the United States
today as it was of Shapespeaere's
England. Obviously, a man must
get something out of marriage —
enough to make it worth the annoyances 
its restrictions bring. He
must, in fact, get quite a lot out
of marriage — and he does.
The first thing he gets out of
it — to put no fine point on it —
is sex. A man marries in the hope

of achieving at least a satisfactory
sex life. You can discount 90 percent 
of what you hear about masculine 
desire for the promiscous
pursuit of women. The constant
search for a sexual partner which
bachelors must endure is a bore
and a chore. Young, good-looking,
complaisant playgirls are in far
greater supply in magazine than in
real life. The unmarried man may
spend endless — often ugly —
hours calling numbers from little
black books, arranging seductive
little dinners which go nowhere, or
at best, achieving pointless little
affairs which end with tears and
bitterness.
The bachelor sacrifices, too much
for the sake of variety. Most often
the men who have truly rewarding
sexual experiences are married. It
takes time to build a satisfactory
sex life based on mutual understanding 
and consideration, love
and respect. It takes time to learn
how to decorate the sex act with
meaning, to polish it with virtue.
This ripeness no bachelor can earn
with the kind of brief sexual episode
he has in mind.
Yet sex is not the most important 
factor in keeping a man wedded. 
Let nobody mistake it: Children 
have carried more marriages
over rough spots than a nation
full of marriage counselors.
Most men flight in their children. 
While women's love for their
children is all-encompassing, forgives 
all and accepts all, men are
likely to be a little more objective,
to be a little more able to stand
back and see their children as people 
separate from themselves —
people with strengths and weaknesses, 
vices and virtues. To come
to know his child's developing personality 
— to watch it grow and
open out — is a marvelous experience 
for a man.
NOTE — Next week A Man
Without Children to be continued
next week.
This article is published in
Reader's Digest Oct. 1966 issue.


Residential leaders in the Cancer
Program will hold their first Kitchen 
Party at the GTEA Building
on Saturday, Nov. 12 from 10:30
a.m., untill 12:30 p.m.
The Kitchen Party is a new
approach for the involvement of
more people in Earlier Treatment
Education about cancer. The project 
can be sponsored in the home
or on a community - wide basis.
A wide range of unique activities
which are usually of special interest 
to the average housewife
may be involved in the project.
Mrs. Mary Ray and Mrs. Elia
Anderson chairman and co-chairman 
of the Residential Division for
the Westside Volunteer Service
Center, said that the local program
hopes to involve a large number
of adults in this educational project 
during the next twelve months.
Mrs. Ray emphasizzed that this
is not a fund-raising activity and
the public should not confuse it
with the Society's annual EDUCATION 
- Funds Crusade which
usually takes place during April.
Both, Mrs. Ray and Mrs. Anderson 
are urging all their residential 
leaders to arrange to participate 
in the Kitchen Party. It is
hoped that this technique for educational 
activities while learning
will be replated by housewives and
groups on the community level. If
this goal is achieved, more adults

who are usually missed in other
activities on cancer will probably
be reached with the facts about
this disease.

$2,700 IN GOLD DUST
Gabrielly Licudi, appearing in
Universe's "The Jokers," was to
have worn a $2,700 spun-gold gown
throughout a dance sequence, but
after two minute's of the frug the
gown was reduced to a pile of gold
threads.

U.S. Professional
Tennis Championships
Set For Nov. 18-20
The U. S. Professional Tennis
Championships will be played Nov.
18-20 at the Brook Club in this
Milwaukee suburb, it was announced 
Monday.
The meet, sponsored by the Midwest 
Professional Tennis Association 
and the United states Professional 
Lawn Tennis Association,
will offer a minimum purse of
$1,000.
Leading entries are expected to
include former world champion
Pancho Segura and former British
Davis Cup Star Michael Davies.

tag shorts 6
A friend is a person with whom
I may be sincere. Before him I
may think aloud.